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Deep Down… Are You Primarily a Giver or…?

“I’ve been a victim of a selfish kind of love

It’s time that I realize

That there are some with no home

Not a nickel to loan

Could it be really me pretending that they’re not alone?

A willow deeply scarred

Somebody’s broken heart

And a washed – out dream (Washed – out dream)

They follow the pattern of the wind, ya’ see

Cause they got no place to be

That’s why I’m starting with me”

“Man in the Mirror” — Michael Jackson — Songwriters: Glen Ballard, Siedah Garrett

If you had the opportunity to live your life over again… would you take more, give more or take and give about the same?

There really isn’t a “right” answer to this question. We don’t get to live our lives over again; but, it can take us a while to begin figuring out how best to live our lives.

If you’ve convinced yourself, that you’d take more or give and take about the same…

this blog probably isn’t for you.

Sure… life can be difficult, arduous and seemingly unfair at times. How do these challenging times make you feel? What happens when people take a big “slice of pie” and you’re left with just the crumbs? This has probably happened and will continue to happen to you, many times in your life.

Earlier in my life, I busted my ass to make sure I earned every opportunity available. Yes; I was a Taker; although my self-justification was that it was earned. A Taker… nonetheless.

Light switch gets clicked on mid-life. Does it really matter what we have, other than integrity, enough stuff and to be loved by those whom we love?

Now… that is an extremely rare, Amazing combination!

Fascinatingly; for many, because others have treated us poorly, took big slices of the pie and left just crumbs, etc., their negative impact on us, actually changed the course of our lives, how we think and what decisions we make moving forward.

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So… why consider being a better Giver of your:

Time?
Talents?
Willingness to just listen?
Helping hands?
Etc.?

Just maybe…

Giving changes lives… starting with our own!
Giving changes how we see the world… starting with our role in it!
Giving provides a booster shot of Mental Health Serum to people … starting with a booster to our mental health!
Giving demonstrates genuine appreciation for people… starting with appreciation for what we have!
Giving opens our eyes to differences among people… starting with our own differences!

Paradoxically, I believe, Giving is the most self-centered thing you can do… because it provides you the privilege to lead a Purpose-Driven life… the greediest gift one could ever give to one’s self!

Are you an Open-Minded Giving Leader… looking to make a positive impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $1+ Million, in less than 20 hours, for each of Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Who changes the world? I believe it’s almost exclusively the Top-7%. They are the only ones with the Talent Portfolios and social consciences needed to actually implement significant positive social impact.

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

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How Do We Learn to Genuinely Appreciate?

“There cannot be a sense of abundance or the experience of prosperity without appreciation.

You cannot find beauty unless you appreciate beauty.

You cannot find love unless you appreciate loving and being loved.

If you wish abundance, appreciate life.”

~ William R. Miller

For you… how much is enough?

In 2021, a couple had their fourth child and needed to put their home, with 4-bedrooms, 1½ baths, a full basement and a separate 600 square foot garage on the market, to look for a bigger home. This can make perfect sense using today’s standards.

In 1935, a couple built that same size home, without running water, for their family of 11 (9 children).

Interestingly, that home is the same home and was built by my grandfather, who was the sole income earner in the family, and worked his entire life, as a coal miner.

So… how much is enough?

How does appreciation fit into your equation, that helps you determine, “how much is enough”?

We each get to choose our answer to that question and will be held accountable for our numerous choices we make during our unique Life Journey. There really isn’t any right or wrong answer to this question, but your answer provides insight into your level of appreciation for what you do have.

Stress… a way-too-common complaint in 2021, particularly in first-world countries. How does your level of stress compare to:

What if you didn’t have clean drinking water for you and your family?
What if there wasn’t a medical clinic within 10 miles of your village and you didn’t own a vehicle?
What if you didn’t have a permanent home?
What if you relied on a food bank for your family’s meals?

So… where does your genesis for appreciation come from and how is it developed? Is it passed on from generation to generation? Is it learned through experiences? Or, is it some combination?

Why is appreciation important? Here’s a few things I’ve observed. Appreciative people:

Are more secure in themselves and don’t need constant reinforcement.
Love to be wrong and genuinely learn from their mistakes.
Are giving people, who constantly try to give more than they take.
Treat others equally, regardless of their professional rank, socio-economic status, etc.
Are low maintenance and exude much less drama, since they appreciate what they have, who they are and who they will become.

Lastly; appreciative people are some of the happiest people you’ll ever meet. They bring energy, a listening mindset, kindness, solutions, helping hands and so much more to your life!

Meanwhile, unappreciative people blame others for their failures, are self-centered, never seem to have enough and are generally miserable to be around.

Who are you?

Are you an appreciative leader looking to make a positive impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $1+ Million for each of Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

What Defines a Winner in the Game of Life?

“My mentality was to go out and win at any cost.

If you don’t want to live that regimented mentality,

then you don’t need to be alongside of me….

And if you don’t get on the same level,

then it’s going to be hell for you.”

~ Michael Jordan

How do you define, “Winning”? Isn’t your definition far more important than mine?

Have you watched the 5-Minute Highlight Video of your life… recently?

Imagine you’re 100… and you pass… the next phase isn’t the Pearly Gates.

You’re whisked off to an immaculately decorated, quiet room, with just 2-seats and a 100-inch Natural Resolution screen. Why Natural Resolution? Because, what will be showing, is the actual footage from your life, as it actually happened… no justifications, excuses, etc., just the real you!

We know there are 86,400 seconds in just 1 day; but, you lived 100 years or approximately 36,500 days! Now… edit your 5-Minute Highlight Video for these 36,500 days into just… 300 seconds!

What will you (actually, no BS) see?

Stop!!! Literally rough out your notes, on what you will actually see, in your 5-Minutes!

Did you see a:

Winner?
Loser?
Winner & Loser?
Tryer?
Self-Centered, Low-Impact Person?
Difference Maker?
_________?

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Go through this exercise… as painful as it just might be.

Why go through it?

Rumor has it… you have more opportunities since… they’re filming again today!

Check with your Heart and Soul, not your mind… deep down, unlike your mind, these two are unbiased!

So are you a Winner in the Game of Life?

It’s a new day… Seize your Rainbows of Amazing… Winner!

Question: Are you a Winner, looking to make a positive impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $1+ Million for each of Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

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If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

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How Important is the Role of Self-Love in Your Life?

“ Never give a human the job of making you happy.

Some days, they might call in sick.

Other days, they might quit.” ~ Vessel

Are you a fan of thought-provoking quotes?

Does the one above resonate with you, as much as it does with me?

The very first time I read this quote, I immediately thought, what a clever way to highlight the importance of “self-love”. After all, can we truly be happy, if we are relying on another person to provide that happiness? From my perspective, the answer is, “no”.

How then do we find happiness? Simple…self-love. In other words, to “have love and happiness” in our lives, we must first “radiate love and happiness from within”.

Sounds easy, right? In reality, it’s a much harder concept to grasp than most realize.

Many of us have unknowingly spent the greater part of our lives giving and receiving “contingent” love. Meaning, I’ll love you, if you love me in return; or, I’ll appreciate and show “love” for your efforts, as long as you bring benefits to me.

This form of “contingent” love is born out of an attachment to the outcome, and that need is often the result of an existing sense of lack. All too often we give this version of “contingent” love to fill a void in our lives. Think barter system, only you’re bartering for your own happiness.

What happens then when the contingency fails or the person you’re bartering with reneges on the deal?

This is the moment, when I’m contemplating this quote, where I, and possibly you, look back on past relationships, business partnerships and even friendships, wondering how often the love was “contingent”?

Now alternatively, consider if you were first to honor, respect and love yourself.

By having the ability to love yourself regardless of whether a situation ends well or not, you are essentially removing the need (or attachment) to the outcome. As a result, any love you give is purely a gift to the other person, and any love you receive in return…

well, that becomes a delicious dessert, on top of the already beautiful main course you’ve provided yourself.

Sounds like a meal worth investing in!

So how can self love benefit you in business relationships?

The question should really be, how can it not?!

From the time you were young and green in the field, to the time you’re well established and move with ease, “honoring yourself” can be the stepping stone to a fulfilling and rewarding career.

To truly honor yourself, means to have a healthy understanding of where you bring value to the table, while simultaneously acknowledging your inner moral compass. To properly navigate the business world, it’s important when entering new partnerships or situations, that you already know where you stand. If you don’t have a developed sense of self, you are more easily manipulated or swayed from your original purpose.

Whether you start today, or you’ve done-so for many years, truly loving and appreciating yourself is a key building block

for moving through life, love and business from a place of stability, versus a place of lack.

And that is cause to celebrate!

Cheers! ~ Josette

About the Guest Author: We are pleased to share this blog written by Josette Gastonguay! She is the Administrative Manager of Corporate Affairs, at Viatris. Valuing integrity in the workplace, she strives to bring clarity and transparency through clear, thoughtful communication. Originally studying accounting at Robert Morris University, she has since found greater personal joy in the healing power of words. Being directly impacted by abuse at a younger age, she has since dedicated her free time in the pursuit of helping others heal from traumatic life events. Drawing from her own life experiences, she uses storytelling and poetry to help others heal, understand their own value and rediscover the meaning of love.

The content of this blog strictly represents the personal ideas, views, etc., of our guest author.

Do They Genuinely Love You… Or…?

“The ones who love you will never leave you.

Even if there are hundred reasons to give up,

they will find one reason to hold on.” ~ Anonymous

Do you believe this is a reliably accurate quote?

Many of the most uttered phrases in life, include the word, “love”!

To those who’ve lost their jobs, how many times did people at work say they, “love your work / love working with you”? Did they really?

To those who’ve been divorced, how many times did your Ex say he or she, “loved you”?

Anyone who follows my writing, knows I’m a “Holistic Writer” that loves (there’s that word again!) to blur the professional and personal lines… because, we are just one, holistic-person! Holistic is not simple; but… neither are our lives!

As such; this particular blog will lean more toward the personal side while incorporating the professional side.

First; I can still count, on just one hand, the women during my lifetime (going all the way back to High School) whom I’ve uttered those magical, “I love you” words. So, this may be a good time for you to stop reading, since you may very well conclude, I may not be knowledgeable in this area!

Let’s organize Love into 3 macro categories.

Unconditional Love – The rarest and most sacred of all Loves.
Quid-Pro-Quo Love – Love shared when the tradeoffs are conveniently about the same for all parties.
What Have You Done For Me Lately Love (WHYDFMLL) – Love shared, if the beneficiary has received what they wanted lately.

What Have You Done For Me Lately Love – This is the most common type of Love. The beautiful part about this type of Love, the one providing the Contingent Love, will argue vehemently… they don’t fit into this category. Why? If we peel the onion back on the core-competencies of this type of person, we’ll find most of their competencies are aligned with self-centeredness. Thus; all relationships must be continuously beneficial to them, while providing limited downside risks, in order for them to be willing to share some amount of Contingent Love.

Have empathy and be slow to judge. This type of Love isn’t necessarily a bad thing; as we’re all different and for some, this is the best they’re capable of providing. Accept and understand (if you don’t, this is where the problems come in) what It is.

This type of Love is also commonly practiced professionally by employers, partners and in vendor-customer relationships.

Quid-Pro-Quo Love – This is also a very common type of Love, but with a slight variance from WHYDFMLL Love. Instead of just maintaining the what have you done for me lately “score”, they consider what you’ve done for them recently. This could be, for example, aligned with what have you done for them the last 3 or 4 experiences. Thus; it provides a little more “runway” in the relationship, but it’s important to maintain a positive recent balance or the relationship will end.

Again, self-centered DMQ (Decision Making Quality) is foundational to them. Have empathy, appreciate that your DMQ isn’t similar and understand, this may be the best they’re capable of providing.

This is also commonly practiced professionally by employers, partners and in vendor-customer relationships.

Unconditional Love – This is something few will ever experience as an adult; yet is so Amazing, that words are insufficient to describe it!

Personally; there are Windows of Time in which many of us will temporarily experience it in our lifetime. A simple example is when we’re born and our parents take care of us until we’re capable of taking care of ourselves. As we grow older and enter into significant relationships, we begin to realize most relationships are aligned with a sophisticated bartering system vs. Unconditional Love. Again, Non-Unconditional Love may be the best someone is capable of providing; so, be empathetic while objectively understanding what type of limiting Love they are sharing.

If you find genuine, Unconditional Love, without strings attached… be appreciative for your Rainbow of Amazing while it lasts!

Given the capitalistic nature of the professional world, Unconditional Love is 99% nonexistent.

So, who really Loves you and who do you really Love?

Our Intelligent Social Impact model blurs some of these lines of Love. Why? We see our role as being the voice for those without a voice… without food… without drinkable water… without ________!

Thus; we are indirectly extending Unconditional Love to those in need whom we’ve never met, while taking all the business risks to raise $ Millions for them! Our team creates $ Millions for the Companies we collaborate with first, so they can share a percentage of this financial success our teams created, with our teams and Non-Profits, at no net cost to the companies. So professionally, we have a Quid-Pro-Quo relationship with the companies.

What would your Non-Profit do with an extra $1+ Million?

Here are a few of the benefits our Intelligent Social Impact model provides.

Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million, at no cost to your Non-Profit.
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-lines, at no net cost to your company (Intelligent!).
Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement.

Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of Your Life while you’re making Jugular Decisions, to seize and hyper-appreciate your Windows of Amazing!

If this content resonates with you; and, you would actually appreciate help, seizing your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

If You Want It To Be True… Then It Must Be True!

“Love goes very far beyond the physical person of the beloved.

It finds its deepest meaning in his or her spiritual being, his or her inner self.

Whether or not he or she is actually present,

whether or not he or she is still alive at all,

ceases somehow to be of importance.”

― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

Do you find it mentally helpful to believe you’ve made the right decision?

Have you ever wondered, “is there such a thing as a right decision”?

What happens if you’re often wrong? How does that make you feel?

If you’re still reading… let’s revisit this right and wrong concept.

Confirmation bias; succinctly means people believe a certain decision, idea or concept to be accurate or put another way, “they’re right”; because they want it to be true, despite information possibly to the contrary. Thus, people stop gathering information when the evidence gathered so far, confirms the views or prejudices they want to be true, so they can mentally stop thinking about it. This approach represents the majority of people; albeit much easier mentally, is it possible, this is not the optimal approach?

How can we shift confirmation bias from a weakness to becoming our ally? We can start by simply recognizing its existence as a component of our DMQ (Decision Making Quality).

Second; instead of taking a dichotomous view and seeing decisions as primarily right or wrong, let’s consider a pie chart of unique views with some pie slice options being more favorable, while others are less favorable.

Third; we need to determine which options (pie slices) are holistically (vs. specific parts) more important, to help us make better overall decisions. This approach takes into consideration:

Will it help me or hurt me?
Will it help others or hurt others?
Do I have the capacity to implement it effectively?
(Critical) What outcome do I want, as it relates to the previous questions?
- Amazing
- Very Good
- Good
- Good Enough

You’ll notice, as you labor through your pie slice options and their probabilities for success, a very strange thing happens… you’ll begin to know yourself much better… the Good… the Bad… and the Ugly!

How many of you have been in relationships with primarily self-centered people who lack the capacity to change for the betterment of the relationship? This is a good example of less-than-stellar Holistic-DMQ coupled with an abundance of confirmation bias.

Our teams work with companies to help them save $XX Millions, just as we’ve done for

95 F500’s and numerous mid-sized companies over the past 15 years. Although we’ve

earned a 97%+ Success Rate, it’s not unusual to hear, “we’ve got this covered”;

which translates to confirmation bias.

Compared to where I am now, when I was younger, I was much more self-centered. Thus; my decisions centered primarily on:

What’s in it for me?
How will this make me look?
Will I fit into the Social Norm Value System?

How sad was I! Gag me! Best (not most likely) case scenario, that thinking can lead to a Very Good life…

but, Amazing was being forfeited!

Now, my first questions that drive my decision making are geared toward:

What’s in it for others?
Who do I need help from to help us be successful?
Will this primarily help my (would be) significant other or business relationships more than me?

It’s super-tough for me to be around self-centered people who seek justification for their decisions, stop looking for additional information regarding their decisions and rely upon their confirmation biases to “sleep well at night”. Yes; that self-centered model can lead to a Good life… but never… an Amazing life!

Here are a few values of Amazing people:

They love when others prove them wrong (and can’t spend enough time around them)!
They love to give more than they take in every relationship! There aren’t boundaries in loving relationships! (Why? This is an entire blog by itself.)
They grow holistically as a professional and person by being proven wrong as often and quickly as possible (before they get old and wise)!
They lead an Amazing; albeit often, lonelier life!

Anyone can make Good Enough decisions, surround themselves with others that support their Good Enough decisions and stop looking for new information that could upend their decisions — or — un-truncate the possibility of regret associated with past decisions. Whereas; Amazing people embrace these challenges and eat plenty of Humble Pie in order to get better faster and holistically.

If you’re genuinely looking for Amazing professionally, we’d love to explore that path with your Non-Profit, your Company or yourself!

Life’s short and Windows of Amazing are even shorter!

What would your Non-Profit do with an extra $1+ Million?

Here are a few of the benefits our Intelligent Social Impact model provides.

Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million, at no cost to your Non-Profit.
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-lines, at no net cost to your company (Intelligent!).
Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement.

Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of Your Life while you’re making Jugular Decisions,

to seize and hyper-appreciate your Windows of Amazing!

If this content resonates with you; and, you would actually appreciate help, seizing your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Are You Forfeiting More Than You Think?

“We forfeit three-quarters of ourselves in order to be like other people.”

– Arthur Schopenhauer

Do you overvalue what you have?

Do you undervalue what you don’t have… what you’ve forfeited through your decision making?

What you have, is easy to measure; but what you’ve forfeited is difficult to accurately measure!

Nonetheless; however difficult it is to measure what you’ve forfeited,

should not preclude you from, as objectively as possible, measuring it!

Why?

You have decisions to make today and in the future that will significantly impact you professionally, personally, etc.

Thus; if you don’t figure out how to objectively measure what you’ve forfeited, how will you prevent continued forfeiture in the future?

Here are a few ways people typically prefer to subjectively measure forfeiture.

1. “I need to forget about it, since it didn’t actually happen.”

+ It’s a nice and neat way to (not) measure, especially from a mental standpoint, but extremely flawed.

2. “I’ll do better next time, but don’t want to objectively measure what was possibly forfeited.”

+ Again, it’s a nice and neat way to (not) measure, especially from a mental standpoint, but the measurement of what was forfeited is typically inaccurately biased in favor of the decision maker’s decision, which subjectively, inaccurately and significantly lowers the value of what was forfeited.

3. “I really need to look at this with people who are likely to disagree with me and who have a higher Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) than me, to better understand what was forfeited.”

+ This approach provides an opportunity to measure what was forfeited more accurately.

4. “I am about to forfeit something of significant impact and really need to think this through, to understand what I’m potentially going to forfeit.

+ Thus; Holistic-DMQ is enabled and optimized proactively.

+ Warning: Just because you take this approach doesn’t mean a good decision is actually made; since, Holistic-DMQ ranges from 0.0 to 10.0 (with 10.0 being theoretically perfect). Thus; taking this approach, but being a 7.5 decision maker; will still result in a 7.5 decision.

One of my tests for mental fortitude in others, is their level of need, to dichotomously separate their past into primarily two buckets.

People with lower mental fortitudes tend to recall decisions they believe turned out well for them (even if it (objectively) really didn’t turn out so well or they just got lucky, but they’ve convinced themselves that it did). Meanwhile, for decisions that didn’t turn out so well for them, they choose to forget about them as though they didn’t happen. When you ask about those less-than-stellar decisions, typically some ambiguous attribute such as intuition, gut, etc., (vs. Holistic-DMQ, which includes these soft skills) wasn’t followed. This is a red-flag for Holistic-DMQ.

Personally, I don’t hold onto my past in a mentally negative manner; rather, I do hold onto it as an always present, how do I use it to make objectively better decisions now.

Professional Forfeiture: I’ve left millions of dollars on the table because a partner unexpectedly sold his proprietary software to a F500 company. This hasn’t prevented me from building new partnerships, but the experience does impact how and with whom they’re built.

Personal Forfeiture: I’ve had the privilege to date women who were mostly amazing, spectacular or awesome. None of the relationships ended amazing, spectacular or awesome. Just because these relationships ended, hasn’t prevented me from appreciating how amazing, spectacular or awesome they were while helping me to better understand myself and clarify the unorthodox, holistic attributes that attract me.

Amazing doesn’t last forever… so, stop forfeiting imperfectly-Amazing opportunities!

Optimize your windows of time when life is Amazing!

Why?

Only Windows of Amazing will be so special, they’ll be the ones

that make the final cut into the 5-Minute Highlight Video of Your Life!

Yes… think about it deeply and make Amazing Holistic Decisions!

So… It’s a new day!

Yes… You can stop forfeiting Amazing!

If you’re genuinely looking for Amazing professionally, we’d love to explore with you what that looks like for your Non-Profit, Company or yourself!

Life’s short and Windows of Amazing are even shorter!

What would your Non-Profit do with an extra $1+ Million?

What would your company do with $XX Millions of New, Realized Net Income,

just as our teams have provided to 95 F500’s over the last 15 years?

You can use our Intelligent Corporate Social Impact model to significantly improve your Company, Non-Profit or Community!

Here are a few of the benefits our Intelligent Social Impact model provides.

Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million, at no cost to your Non-Profit.
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-lines, at no net cost to your company (Intelligent!).
Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement.

Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of Your Life while you’re making Jugular Decisions, to seize and hyper-appreciate your Windows of Amazing!

If this content resonates with you; and, you would actually appreciate help, seizing your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Intelligent Impact!

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Want to Look Good? Don’t Change!

“Change is the law of life, and those who look only to the past and present

are certain to miss the future” – John F. Kennedy

Most professionals and people in general, find it wonderful to be “right”!

Most leaders hire gate keepers, people build walls, life coaches tell you to create boundaries, etc., to keep fresh ideas from “getting in”.

What would your life look like… if you didn’t have all those barriers; instead, you used your Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) and you were mentally healthy? (Yes; it’s my understanding that barriers do make sense for people recovering on the mental disorder spectrum and this may not apply to them.)

One of the ways your life could look, if you didn’t have all those barriers… Amazing!

Although barriers mitigate your downside risks, they simultaneously reduce your upside potential!

How many executives, professionals, Non-Profits or people do you know, that have it “pretty good”?

Guess what they don’t have… Amazing!

Jim Collins’ book, “Good to Great” says it best… “Good is the enemy of Great”.

It’s fascinating how many executives and people have read that book, but don’t practice that opportunity!

So; if you want to look Good and be right (per current social norms)…

there’s no need to change or keep reading.

However; if you love life and genuinely want to pursue Amazing, use your Holistic-DMQ to:

Kick down the walls around you!
Cut the barb wire fence around you!
Drain the moat leading to your castle!
Let down your castle’s drawbridge!
Increase your Intelligent Vulnerability
Let Amazing into your life, your Non-Profit or your Business!

Awaken anew! Smell the fresh air of Amazing!

Intelligently pursue your Windows of Amazing!

Non-Profits – When is the last time you added a new $2.5 Million Donation Channel? Would you like to add one now at no cost?

Companies – Would you like to add $10 to $100 Million to your Realized Net Income, a no net cost?

Executives – Would you like to elevate your Holistic-DMQ, to drop the grind part, and lead a more Purpose-Driven, successful life?

Again, if you’re looking for Good… don’t change.

If you’re looking for Amazing, we’d love to explore what that looks like for your Non-Profit, Company or yourself!

Life’s short and Windows of Amazing are even shorter!

What would your Non-Profit do with an extra $1+ Million?

What would your company do with $ Millions of New, Realized Net Income, just as we’ve provided to 95 F500’s?

You can use our Intelligent Corporate Social Impact model to significantly improve your Company, Non-Profit or Community?

Here are a few of the benefits our Intelligent Social Impact model provides.

Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million, at no cost to the Non-Profit
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-lines, at no net cost to the companies (Intelligent!)
Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement.

Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of your life while you’re making Jugular Decisions,

to seize and hyper-appreciate your Windows of Amazing!

If this content resonates with you; and, you would actually appreciate help, seizing your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Intelligent Impact!

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

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Are You Primarily a One-Way Street Decision Maker?

“The benefits of self are short-lived but its terrible effects are Long lasting.

Even loved ones are not spared from the devastating effects of selfishness.”

~ Samuel Zulu.

It’s nearly impossible to have a head-on collision on a one-way street, especially in a car equipped with a collision avoidance system!

Is your decision-making style, as an executive or person, primarily self-centered, one-way (your way) and equipped with an overly-sensitive collision avoidance system to mitigate your risks?

Together; these are a great set of Personal Protection Equipment (PPE) if you’re trying to achieve Good… although; they simultaneously prevent you from ever experiencing Amazing!

Wouldn’t it be great if you could utilize this PPE and also enjoy the upside potential of Amazing, both professionally and personally?

Life just doesn’t work that way! If Good is good enough for you; kudos to you!

If it isn’t, please keep reading.

Pause… No disrespect, but if you’re able to describe a 12+ month Window of Amazing in words… you haven’t experienced Amazing… because there aren’t words to describe it accurately.

Most struggle to even recognize Amazing.

If it is recognized, most struggle to figure out what to do with it.

The most common outcome is forfeiture of Amazing, due indirectly to multiple ways of under-appreciation.

Only after many Bad to Very Good years, do people realize what they had previously forfeited.

Amazing is the piece de resistance at the extreme top of the Life’s Experiences Spectrum!

Great, Awesome, Super are wonderful, but just aren’t the same as Amazing!

Back on Track… We have choices to make on our journey in life. Our Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) determines the range of possibilities on this spectrum. The spectrum ranges from Bad to Okay to Good to Awesome to Amazing. It’s important to realize:

Safer, social-norm-aligned decisions tend to result in outcomes in the Bad to Okay to Good ranges.
Unorthodox decisions carry more risk of failure, while providing the only opportunities for us to reach Amazing.
Nothing lasts forever; regardless if you select a safer social-norm course of action that takes you to Good vs. pursuing Amazing. Good may not last as long as you’d like… and, you forfeited the years of opportunity for Amazing.

Life is short and flies by faster than a Peregrine falcon on a dive mission.

Since our time is extremely short and each of us is unique… choose wisely!

Professionally, most people love getting that steady income every two weeks. I remember being on that safe one-way street, even in the Top-1% for income, while leading National initiatives in Sales, Marketing, Services, Operations, etc., for Global 500’s. Some new ideas that I’d implement, added $5 to $45 Million of Net Income per year to their bottom-lines. Did my steady, attractive check change? No it didn’t, but in exchange for about $35 Million on average, they’d provide a promotion! This was Good… not Amazing.

In changing careers to be an entrepreneur with a Social Impact focus while leading a Holistic, Purpose-Driven life, I discovered what Amazing looked like professionally! Yes; there are many more thorns, but that’s where the roses in life grow.

Personally, I was completely oblivious (but naively didn’t know it) to the existence of Amazing until an intelligent lady came into my life to show me the difference. Although we’ve gone our separate ways, it changed me forever, for the better as I personally work toward becoming Amazing. Now, for me, it’s Amazing or nothing in relationships. Yes; Amazing enables you to realize the stark difference between Very Good and Amazing!

Life’s short and Windows of Amazing (windows of time when it’s Amazing) are even shorter!

Ready to use our Amazing Social Impact model to significantly improve your Company, Non-Profit or Community?

Here are a few of the benefits our Amazing Social Impact model provides.

Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million, at no cost to the Non-Profit.
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-lines, at no net cost to the companies (Intelligent!).
Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement.

Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of your life while you’re making Jugular Decisions, to seize and hyper-appreciate your Windows of Amazing!

If this content resonates with you; and,

you would actually appreciate help, seizing your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Intelligent Impact!

Who changes the world? I believe it’s almost exclusively the Top-7%.

They are the only ones with the Talent Portfolios and social consciences needed to actually implement significant positive social impact.

If you believe you’re one of these Executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

The Unicorn Named Amazing!

Take criticism, smash it into dust.

Add color and use it to paint breathtaking images

of unicorns frolicking through endless fields of greatness.

Matthew Gray Gubler

What’s the difference between Very Good and Amazing?

They sound close; but are miles apart and as different as night and day!

Have you had more than 1 whole year of Amazing in your life?

Amazing isn’t perfect! A key to finding this Unicorn called Amazing, is being able to appreciate and implement Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) aligned with everything you do… in total… not in separate compartments such as work, family, etc. Unicorns are awesome professionally, personally, in the community and everywhere in-between. Unicorns are unconditionally, for good reasons, Hype-Appreciative!

The problems with Amazing or Unicorns are plenty.

Amazing makes it hard to breathe, since it takes your breath away!
Very Good looks like an economy Kia while Amazing is an upscale Ferrari!
Once you go Amazing… it’s tough, if not impossible, to return to Very Good!
Amazing is so scary; we try our hardest to jettison Unicorns out of our lives before we fall in love with them… while eloquently justifying our decisions (thus; demonstrating our less-than-stellar Holistic-DMQ)!
Amazing is so unorthodox and rare, that it’s hard to:

* Identify the Unicorns, before they pass us by.

* Understand Unicorns, since most of the “scripts” we have are aligned with Average or Very Good.

* Appreciate Unicorns, since they’re so different and seem so odd, compared to social norms.

* Hold onto Unicorns, because… you too, must be a Unicorn to see another Unicorn, and… both must, as difficult as it can be, remain Unicorns.

So… what makes Unicorns so different? What is the DNA that differentiates them?

They thrive in chaos, unknowns and unorthodox situations, because they:

* Are Hyper-Appreciative knowing there aren’t words to actually describe how special and rare Amazing is!

* Know that nothing lasts forever, so they want to seize these, possibly once-in-a-lifetime, opportunities… despite the reality that even Unicorns are not perfect!

* Know they must improve themselves and their thinking; or, forfeit what could be!

They nourish your soul during the Windows of Amazing, without worrying how long each Window of Amazing will be open (but deeply miss them when they end).
Their depth of love is deeper than most. Thus; when less-than-stellar things happen, instead of making less-than-stellar decisions or over-reacting, they calmly understand and Hyper-Appreciate the holistic, big-picture.
They think further ahead, reflect further behind than most.
They are Hyper-Appreciative in their actions and decisions, while using a Cumulative-Relationship-DMQ style.
They not only accept, but crave constructive criticism from Unicorns in their life.

How many unicorns have you been blessed to have in your life?

Professionally, I’ve been blessed with 3.5 and personally with 1.5. Each, has literally changed my life for Amazingly better. Sadly; nothing lasts forever, but wow how awesome it was at the time, either professionally or personally!

In the song “Lucky Man” by Emerson, Lake & Palmer the lyric “Ooooh, what a lucky man he was” describes how blessed I’ve been to have Unicorns come into my life for Windows of Amazing!

The secret to finding Amazing, is quite simply… Holistic-DMQ! When we make decisions that sub-optimize our opportunities for Amazing… we end up with a few, less-than-stellar options:

Average to Very Good… but, not Amazing.
Amazing professionally, but not personally; or, vise versa.
Decisions that max out our potential at 9.0 (Scale 0.0 to 10.0); while Amazing is in the 9.1 or higher range.
Easily fitting into social norms, it’s less work, etc., but not Amazing.

So… what should we do when we find a Unicorn?

Change for the better or forfeit the opportunity!

Stark? Yes!

Life’s short and Unicorns that create Windows of Amazing with you… are even shorter!

Want to use our Intelligent, Unicorn Social Impact model to be a Unicorn in your Company, Non-Profit or Community?

Here are a few of the benefits our Unicorn Social Impact model provides.

Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million, at no net cost to the Non-Profit.
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-lines, at no net cost to the Companies (Intelligent!).
Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement.

Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of your life while you’re making Jugular Decisions,

to seize and Hyper-Appreciate your Windows of Amazing!

If this content resonates with you; and, you would actually appreciate help, seizing your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Intelligent Impact!

If you believe you’re one of these executives,

we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Are You a Leader Who Suffers from SAD (Solutions Aversion Disease)?

“A person who sees a problem is a human being;

a person who finds a solution is visionary;

and the person who goes out and does something about it is an entrepreneur.”

~ Naveen Jain

How many times have you been presented with exceptional opportunities, but didn’t pursue them, until… each, finally became mainstream?

What does Solutions Aversion Disease (SAD) look like? Most leaders (84%, per the objective, Standard Bell-Curve) avoid implementing new solutions for as long as they possibly can, while substituting, currently acceptable rationale for continuing to do what has always been done. They do this, as long as they don’t appear, to be suffering from Solutions Avoidance Disease.

However; Solutions Avoidance Disease has already set in firmly, few leaders, once infected, will ever be cured during their entire career. The price they pay… a lifetime of various opportunities forfeited!

Solutions Avoidance Disease has many glaring symptoms, including:

Admiring mavericks in their industry publicly, but not actually implementing these new solutions in their organizations.
Becoming more entrenched in the status-quo through their actual decisions, while talking about theoretically implementing new solutions.
Failing to prioritize new solutions and support them with the proper resources so they’re “right” about the solutions not working. They get the best of both world’s by providing the veiled beauty of being “right” while simultaneously sabotaging the solutions, to make sure the new solutions don’t work.
Implementing new solutions, eventually, only after:

The tipping point for a new solution is reached and these leaders would look “bad” if they didn’t implement the new solution; or,
They are forced through necessity to implement a new solution or suffer significant consequences personally(but will package the solution as being necessary for professional reasons).

What is the price that is paid, as a result of Executive Leaders / people suffering from Solutions Avoidance Disease?

Personally; so many opportunities are forfeited, ultimately leading to an overall life ranging from “Average” to “Very Good”.
Professionally, so many opportunities are forfeited, ultimately leading to, objectively, a “Mediocre” career.

What are the costs of Solutions Avoidance Disease suffered by leaders at Non-Profits?

Millions of dollars are forfeited each years, resulting in:

No additional, badly needed meals for the hungry!
No additional, badly needed clean water for the thirsty!
No additional, badly needed shelter for the homeless!
No additional, badly needed abuse counseling for the physically and / or mentally abused!
No etc., for those who genuinely need a hand-up!

Intriguing… Overall; the 1,000’s negatively affected by the Non-Profit Executives’ decisions…

are those in desperate need, for the services the Non-Profit was in theory, originally established to help!

What are the costs of Solutions Avoidance Disease suffered by leaders at For-Profit companies?

Billions of dollars are forfeited each year, resulting in:

The risk of being acquired by another company, due to under-performance, and 25%+ of the loyal employees losing their jobs.
The best employees leaving, while being replaced by “Average” talent, resulting in the organization becoming entrenched in “Average”.
The inability to donate millions more dollars to Social Impact initiatives that improve 1,000’s of lives, elevate the company’s PR status and help the company attract better, well-rounded, intelligent talent.

Key: Most companies donate enough to “look good enough”.

This is a common characteristic of Executive Leaders suffering from Solutions Avoidance Disease!

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What does Rehabilitation look like for curing this dreaded Solution Avoidance Disease? Here are a few keys.

Learning to implement new solutions intelligently, fearlessly and in non-self-centered ways.
Realizing new solutions are not about you (the leader); but about what you can do for others as a result of the new solutions being implemented effectively.
Self-centered leaders / people are incapable of being rehabilitated… unless, they acknowledge they are self-centered.
Adding a Challenge Network to your Jugular Decision-Making Team. This complements your Support Team who typically affirms both your “Good” and “Not-So-Good” decisions, while misleadingly, helping to support your self-esteem no matter how bad your decisions.

Are you a Non-Profit or Corporate Executive leader who would love to

start your Rehabilitation, from this debilitating Solutions Avoidance Disease?

Here are a few of the benefits our New Solutions Rehabilitation provides.

Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million, at no cost to the Non-Profit.
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-lines, at no net cost to the companies (Intelligent!).
Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement.

Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of your life while you’re making Jugular Decisions,

to seize and hyper-appreciate your Windows of Amazing!

If this content resonates with you; and, you would actually appreciate help, seizing your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Intelligent Impact!

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

The Fear of Falling in Love With Work, People & Life

“Remember, depending on another is not the same as a dependency,

but sometimes the two are easily confused and without proper balance,

it is easy to build a dependency or either become overly independent.

But being overly independent also puts a strain on a relationship.

This type of independence can stem from the fear of losing yourself within the relationship.

This fear brings about erratic behavior and subconscious sabotage in order to advert losing yourself.”

― Victoria L. White, Learning To Love: And The Power of Sacred Sexual Spiritual Partnerships

Have you actually taken the time to write out the eulogy to your own funeral?

Why would anyone want to participate in such a morbid-sounding activity? Here are 2 reasons:

It forces you to come face-to-face with your own mortality; so you can begin living, loving and appreciating life at a completely higher level and along with those imperfect people who make it beautiful!
It forces you to script out (literally to the second) the 5-Minute Highlight Video of Your Life. This enables you to:

Clearly understand where you’ve been without any sugar coating.
Effectively set priorities in your life moving forward; knowing, nothing lasts forever and Amazing is a rare, elusive treasure that can slip through your hands like sand, that self-sabotaging decisions enable.
Recover from / Amend past mistakes instead of carrying them with you to your grave.

Have I written out my own eulogy?

Yes; although I’m only on the second draft of my eulogy and the first draft of the 5-Minute Highlight Video of My Life.

Here are a few of the takeaways:

It’ll blow you away on how emotionally beautiful some people, experiences, etc., have been in your life!
It’ll make you genuinely prioritize people, purposes, etc., in your life for the very first time (really!).
It’ll give you an impenetrable level of courage, just as it did Scrooge in Dicken’s classic, “A Christmas Carol”, that will enable you to fail, be embarrassed, etc., in pursuit of your new priorities.
It’ll make you laugh at the small things you over-reacted to, socially-accepted scripts you were using that didn’t apply to your unique life and will force you to acknowledge all the opportunities you forfeited (sigh!).

Yes; I wrote out, by the seconds (literally) what I would see in the 5-Minute Highlight Video of My Life. The great / awful news, I didn’t use all 300 seconds!

If we live 100 years; that’s roughly 3.2 Billion seconds.

How small is 5 minutes or 300 seconds of our life? Let’s just say, 1% of 100 years = 32 Million seconds. 300 seconds is miniscule!

What should you include? The nth degree of specifics!

What won’t be included? All the self-centered decisions, actions, etc., that made you feel good… at the time!

In my 300 seconds, there was very, very little on work, sleep, eating or education.

Yes; I was in the Top-1% for income at various times in my career, which most people would consider successful… but, it didn’t make my 300 seconds.
Yes; I earned a Master’s Degree, which 92% of the U.S. population didn’t… but, it didn’t make my 300 seconds.
Yes; I’ll spend roughly 42 years of my life (at 10 hours per day for 100 years) just eating and sleeping… but, it didn’t make a second in my 300 second Highlight Video.

So what does make it to this elite, rarest of rare, 300 seconds?

In one word, the common thread to what made up my 300 seconds, was “Love”!

Here are the characteristics that made my 300 seconds:

Times when my heart and soul were touched by someone who unconditionally loved me for who I was.
Times when I felt the world stop turning, time stood still and it paralyzed me as though I was a statue. In my eulogy, I’ve appreciated the specific people who created these moments, to thank them one final time.
Times when I lacked the courage to select a fork in the road that could have changed my life. Regrets… so, so painful!
Times when I gave, when I had nothing to give. Yes; at times I had nothing; yet, this feeling was awesome, humbling, hyper-appreciating for what I did have and nervous, all at the same time.
Times when I gave my time and finances to people, who would never connect me to the benefits they were receiving.
Times when I stood up for the under-appreciated, bullied, etc., and protected their family income, self-esteem, etc.
Times when others stood up for me when I was down, out, lonely, in pain, not understood, etc.

Yes; I encourage you to take the time, bring a box of tissues and push your way through this. It won’t be perfect, but it’ll change the way you see life!

Life is extremely short!

Windows of Amazing, experienced during our life journey, are extremely rare!

Most won’t have 3 Amazing years in their life!

Yet; Amazing is what generates most of the 300 seconds in the Highlight Video of Your Life!

Don’t forfeit the rare opportunities for Amazing!

Use your Holistic-DMQ to find a way!

Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of your life while you’re making Jugular Decisions, to seize and hyper-appreciate your Windows of Amazing!

If this content resonates with you and you would appreciate help finding your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Here’s how we can help, if you’re genuinely committed to finding your Windows of Amazing in 2021.

+ Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement

+ Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million at no cost to the Non-Profit

+ Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-line, at no net cost to the company

Intelligent Impact!

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Life’s Amazing (& Humbling) When You Don’t Have a Plan B!

There’s no reason to have a plan B because it distracts from plan A.

— Will Smith

“That night I said,

“I love you”

There was no Plan B,

Only us and forever”

— Eric Overby, Journey

How often does Plan A work for you, professionally or personally?

Some people have Plan A, B… Z. Is this wise?

Having multiple backup plans can certainly make you feel more comfortable… but; what if Plan A is the only Amazing one, while Plan B is likely to be Good or Plan C is likely to be Not So Bad, etc.

In the business world; yes, we need to have multiple plans given the safety net value of diverse strategies. However, allocating the appropriate resources, making “die on your sword” commitments and enabling a Can Do Culture to give Plan A the highest probability for success… is seldom seen… since you can just fall back on Plan B. Steve Jobs was an excellent leader for driving and delivering Plan A culture, products, etc.!

Why do organizations and people often settle for Plan B, C, etc., while justifying why each of these plans are better than they appear (or actually are)? Here’s a few reasons.

Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) – Overall, multi-dimensional decision making is compromised. When our Holistic-DMQ is subjectively overrated, we enter the DMQ-Circular-Loop Syndrome while wondering why things aren’t working out the way we had hoped.

DMQ-Courage – Insufficient courage to go all in on Plan A… we start Plan A, with Plan B in the back of our mind, which often, becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. This lack of DMQ-Courage is generated from multiple sources including:

Social Norm Scripts telling us what is perceived to be acceptable
Competencies aligned with challenging the status-quo, such as Communication Conflict Resilience (we need a healthy focus on Task Conflict vs. Relationship Conflict)
Multiple human emotions aligned with failure, self-centeredness, embarrassment, regret, etc.

The Leadership Decision Making Quality (DMQ) Challenge / Opportunity

DMQ-Inner Circle – These are typically “support” groups vs. “challenge” groups, that affirm vs. challenge our decisions. Instead of having an Inner-Circle that only supports both our Good and Not-So-Good decisions, why not have a DMQ-Inner-Circle that has:

Experienced the difference between Amazing and Good, to objectively provide both information and affirmation, appropriately
Lived through many failures and the intelligent risks that need to be taken while pursuing Plan A
Hyper-Appreciated the Amazing things in life… and vowed, to never return to just Good… and why someone may want to consider living life this way

What Does Amazing Look Like – Very few genuinely understand or ever experience Amazing; so, it’s tough to seize a vision, if we don’t know what it looks like and how it makes us feel.

You’re probably still wondering why life is more beautiful when you don’t have a Plan B… and there’s a high chance you could fall on your face, get run over by a steamroller, lose everything, etc.

It comes down to a single, jugular question,

“Would you rather intelligently pursue Amazing,

with all your energy, while accepting the risk of failure; or,

play it safe while achieving “good enough”?

Warning: Holistic-DMQ needs to be accurately aligned with the magnitude of these jugular decisions. If Holistic-DMQ isn’t properly aligned, the likelihood of recognizing what Amazing looks like and achieving it, are also slim. Only after more time passes, can we look in the rearview mirror of life, to realize what was forfeited. I heard a podcast from a psychologists who referenced this point and he shared how much he realized he had forfeited, simply because he didn’t like how the information was delivered… not that it was inaccurate.

Imagine:

Living wherever you truly want to live vs. where you need to live
Working in a role you absolutely love vs. a role you need to work
Being with a significant other who is holistically Amazing & you wish time would stop when you’re around them vs. _________
Helping others as often and in any way you’d like vs. only when it feels necessary to make you feel good

Life is extremely short!

Windows of Amazing, experienced during our life journey, are extremely rare!

Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of Your Life while you’re making Jugular Decisions, to

seize and hyper-appreciate your rare opportunities for potential Windows of Amazing!

If this content resonates with you and you would appreciate creative ways to help discover your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Here’s how we can help, if you’re genuinely committed to improving your performance in 2021.

Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvements.
Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million at no cost to the Non-Profit
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-line, at no net cost to the company

Intelligent Impact!

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Written by IPG Social Impact's President

What Are the Balances in Your DMQ Relationship Accounts?

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship

in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good.

In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that

you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” — Anthony Robbins

How do your DMQ Relationship Accounts look, professionally and personally?

Are you effectively using your Holistic-DMQ to determine if you have positive or negative balances with your most important clients, connections, Inner-Circle, significant other, etc.?

Caution: Before you rush to answer that question, accurately assessing

these relationships isn’t as easy as it first appears!

The reason this question is difficult to answer, most people aren’t aware of the first and most important determinant, in answering the question. I’ve failed to recognize this many times!

The most important step, is determining what “Accounting Method” the organizational decision maker / other person

is using to determine the “Balance” in the DMQ Relationship Account.

Why is the Accounting Method so important? It determines every next interaction with the organization or person. If both of you are not using the same Accounting Method, there are complete disconnects and neither of you understands why the disconnects are happening!

Professionally, many executives have egos that impact the Accounting Method they choose; and, personally many are suffering from stress and various mental issues (depression, anxiety, etc.) or compromised DMQ, that greatly impacts the Accounting Method they choose. Further; the need for decision-control, self-interests, etc., or openness, collaboration, etc., significantly influences the Accounting Method chosen.

Here are 3 Accounting Methods, commonly observed, if you think about this closely.

Method #1: LIFO (Last In, First Out) – This is characterized by weighting the last “deposit” or “withdrawal” disproportionately high. Thus; if you had a positive balance of 50 units and you make a deposit of 100 units, your balance objectively would be 150 units, but with this Accounting Method, you would have a balance in the 250 to 500 range. The reverse would also take place for “withdrawals”.

Method #2: Dichotomous – This is characterized by the other organization / person always maintaining a “Near Zero Balance”. Thus; whatever you’ve done for them lately, a “deposit” or “withdrawal”, determines if you have a slightly positive or negative balance.

Method #3: Cumulative – This is characterized by every deposit and withdrawal being included to create an ongoing cumulative, net balance, just like a bank account. Since deposits and withdrawals vary in size and timing, it isn’t the number of deposits or withdrawals that matter (or when they’re made). If you make 3 deposits of 100 units, you can withdrawal 5 units of 50, while maintaining a balance of +50. This is materially accurate… not literally, since the value of each deposit or withdrawal is prone to subjective interpretation. Although this appears to be the most rationale method, it is, as you’ve probably observed, not the most common Accounting Method chosen.

Let’s return to the original question, “How do your DMQ Relationship Accounts look professionally and personally?” We’ll need to look at each relationship and first, incorporate the Accounting Method used in the relationship, in order to answer the question as accurately as possible. Professionally, this concept can be particularly valuable by integrating the Accounting Method used by each relationship, into your CRM Solution.

Business and life are complicated. This isn’t news to anyone. However; are you effectively adjusting to these Accounting Method complexities to optimize the probability of your success? Execution-Excellence (Ex-Ex) of this ambiguous variable is a key to success, once you’ve used your Holistic-DMQ to accurately determine the Accounting Method the other has chosen in each relationship.

Let’s look at a few examples on how these different Accounting Methods can play out.

Professional Example – The President of your F100 company receives a major complaint from the city’s well-known orchestra, who uses your company’s services. The President is on the orchestra’s Board of Directors. You run with the issue and resolve it timely, effectively and professionally. Depending on the President’s Accounting Method:

You may get a promotion (LIFO Method)
You just stay in a positive standing (Dichotomous Method)
You have the contribution added to your cumulative scorecard (Cumulative Method).

Non-Profit Example – You volunteer 10 hours a week at the local Non-Profit. You don’t believe your 40+ hours of volunteering per month are appreciated, so you decide to share your volunteer hours elsewhere. Depending on the Non-Profit’s Accounting Method, the former Non-Profit could:

Undo various initiatives you implemented, to express they didn’t need you (LIFO Method)
Thank you and forget about you (Dichotomous Method)
Thank you, keep many of your good ideas rolling and still try to retain your talents (Cumulative Method).

Personal Example – You’ve been married for 5 years and your spouse wants to leave her corporate position to start a new business. In year #1, the forecasted revenue from the business is 50% of her corporate salary, then 100% in year #2 and 200% in year #3. You recommend:

Against the transition since her income is expected to be much less in the next 12 months (LIFO Method).
Against the transition since her income will diminish immediately (Dichotomous Method).
Her pursuing this new initiative since she’s been an amazing, intelligent and hard-working spouse over the last 5 years (Cumulative Method).

The beautiful confluence of Holistic-DMQ and Execution-Excellence, form Holistic-Relationship Accounts!

There isn’t objectively a “right” or “wrong” Accounting Method; but it’s key for us to understand which Accounting Method each organizational decision maker or person is using, as well as our own Accounting Method, to foster more effective relationships!

If this content resonates with you and you would like finding your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Here’s how we can help, if you’re genuinely committed to finding your Windows of Amazing in 2021.

Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement
Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million at no cost to the Non-Profit
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-line, at no net cost to the Company

Intelligent Impact!

Who changes the world? I believe it’s almost exclusively the Top-7%.

They are the only ones with the Talent Portfolios and social consciences needed to actually implement significant positive social impact.

If you believe you’re one of these Executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Should You Dodge Bullets or Change?

“But out of all secrets of the river, he today only saw one, this one touched his soul.

He saw: this water ran and ran, incessantly it ran, and was nevertheless always there,

was always at all times the same and yet new in every moment!

Great, be he who would grasp this, understand this!

He understood and grasped it not, only felt some idea of it stirring, a distant memory, divine voices.”

― Hermann Hesse, Siddharta

On jugular issues, how do you decide whether to dodge bullets or change ?

Life brings many challenges, professionally and personally.

How many times have you seen, what you thought were bullets (bad things that could happen in your life) and you dodged them?

How many times have seen, what you thought were bullets, but once you changed, you realized, they weren’t bullets at all, just a helping hand disguised in “it’s worthwhile to get better” clothes?

The answer to the question, “should you dodge bullets or change”

is paradoxically, identically the same… “just be you”!

Why is, “just be you” the same answer for both, apparently polar-opposite, options?

Quite simply, each person relies on their Holistic-DMQ to determine if it’s a bullet or a helping hand.

Thus; “just being you” taps into your Holistic-DMQ, Vision of Future Self,

5-Minute Highlight Video of your life, etc., and will be used to determine

whether you should dodge the bullets or change.

The higher your competencies, particularly your competencies while under stress,

the higher your probability for actually

and effectively deciding to dodge the bullets or change.

Important: The DMQ-Circular-Loop Syndrome will be hard at work, particular on jugular issues. Example: If you believe you’re making a high-quality 9.0 decision (subjective), but objectively, it’s a 6.5 decision; you’ll produce 6.5 outcomes, not 9.0 outcomes, while being oblivious to the objective reality, it’s a 6.5 outcome. Thus; the circular loop continues.

To further complicate the DMQ-Circular-Loop Syndrome, people tend to seek feedback from their Inner-Circle-DMQ. However, if you have a 7.0 Inner-Circle-DMQ and you’ve made a 6.5 (objective) decision, your Inner-Circle is likely to affirm (vs. inform you about) your decision being a 9.0 (subjective). Thus; everybody agrees and feels good; but, it’s still a 6.5 (objective) decision.

Choosing to Change – Let’s tackle the toughest of these two choices first. Once you get good at making this choice; you’ll realize how much you’ve forfeited by trying to dodge bullets, and only dodge bullets when interacting with consistently unreasonable, difficult, etc., people.

Here are a few ways to change in pursuit of your quest for Windows of Amazing vs. dodging bullets (and forfeiting those rare, Amazing professional and / or personal opportunities).

1 – Intelligently prepare to fail while trying to grow. When we venture into uncomfortable situations in an intelligent way, we know we may succeed or fail. Regardless, we’re committed to growing in the process. The key driver is our Vision for Possibility. When we see that which could be, coupled with our willingness to “die on our sword” to make that future happen, our Vision for Possibility keeps us moving when challenges block our view.

2 – Truly understand that you can’t get where you want to go, unless you venture into the unknown; and, you might just find it, but not recognize it. The key isn’t knowing exactly where you want to go, but knowing the direction you want to go. The greater the possibility for a “Window of Amazing”, the more unorthodox the process, outcome, etc.

3 – Intelligently engage your Inner-Circle, in particular, the one or two people closest to you that have as high or higher Holistic-DMQ than you. If you have a Holistic-Relationship with your significant other, this is the perfect person to travel this unknown journey. Both of you should be prepared to provide a “firefighter’s carry” to safety, if either of you need help. This could be in the form of financially carrying the load while starting a business, providing emotional support when one of you is exhausted, working disproportionately more hours if the other is unable, etc.

Dodging Bullets – This second choice is where many people live their lives articulating this skill. Yes, I learned to articulate it in my 20’s and 30’s. But; when I realized, just maybe, I needed and wanted to change, my skills in this area began diminishing.

The key competency to develop is your “Conflict Resilience”.

Amazing thrives in the midst of conflicts, unknowns, unorthodoxies, etc.

This is why so few experience Amazing.

It is simply too much work, too much chaos, etc., for most people to handle effectively.

The beautiful part about thriving in this competency, the world, professionally and personally begins to “slow down” and what was once chaos

becomes calm, while the most important things in life shine with clarity, purpose, etc.

Thus; genuine life prioritization takes precedence and Amazing blesses your life!

Here are a few effective ways to dodge bullets (if you aren’t capable, don’t realize you aren’t currently capable or aren’t committed to changing).

1 – When making decisions, particularly jugular ones, focus on “I” not “we”, to make sure you take care of yourself first. If the other person / people adapt, great! If they do or don’t adapt, either way, you’ve dodged the bullet!

2 – While making decisions, utilize your Self-Sabotage-DMQ to intelligently sabotage ideas, initiatives, etc. By intelligently sabotaging the potential change, you don’t have to worry about changing. Thus; you’ve again, dodged the bullet!

3 – When decisions need to be made, take the reverse of focusing on “I”; while simultaneously focusing on “I”, by staying silent. Thus; if the change might negatively impact you, by staying silent, you’re reinforcing the status quo, not the change. Again, dodging the bullet!

It’s my genuine observation; very few ever find just 3 or more years of Windows of Amazing in their entire life.

Most will find a few or many “good” or “very good” years.

Amazing is nearly impossible to find and requires significant change to hold onto it;

however, once found and comprehensively appreciated… it changes literally everything in your life!

If this content resonates with you and you would appreciate help finding your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Here’s how we can help, if you’re genuinely committed to finding your Windows of Amazing in 2021.

Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement
Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million at no cost to the Non-Profit
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-line, at no net cost to the company

Intelligent Impact!

Who changes the world?

I believe it’s almost exclusively the Top-7%.

They are the only ones with the Talent Portfolios and social consciences needed to actually implement significant positive social impact.

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

2021 – Will You Actually Get Better by Being Less Self-Centered?

“What could I say to you that would be of value,

except that perhaps you seek too much,

that as a result of your seeking you cannot find.”

― Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha

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Talk… Consider… Think About… Hope…

Did you actually become a better person in 2020 or merely adapt to what was required, to fulfill your self-centered needs?

Why not have a breakthrough 2021?

“Good is the enemy of great.”, says Jim Collins, author of the book “Good to Great”.

Life is so, so short; why not accelerate past “mediocre” or “good” and strive aggressively for “Amazing”? The answers for not pursuing Amazing are all too easy to reach. The risks of failure, effort needed, etc., are far, far less while only pursuing Mediocre or Good.

But… what if you find Amazing. Will it last forever? Of course not. However, Mediocre can last a lifetime if you’re not careful!

What does your daily / weekly routine center on? Amazing or Good enough?

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In listening to the tone of 2020, one thing was clear… self-centeredness took center stage!

The election had screams of me, me, me
Many companies who benefitted from the pandemic were gifted the luck to raise prices a lot… and financially benefit
Many Non-Profits said they needed more, more, more
Many individuals focused almost exclusively on protecting themselves and just their interests

Were there many good stories in the U.S. with a population of 330+ million… sure! Kudos to you, if you’re one of them!

Is 2021 the year you awaken?

Is 2021 the year you realize that paradoxically,

the most self-centered thing you can do is… intelligently give of yourself!

Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of your life. Witness, feel and breathe all those:

Regrets and opportunities you forfeited
Holistic decisions at the key forks in your life, that did or would have changed your journey for years
Self-Centered decisions that didn’t make a difference to anyone but yourself… who cares now?
Sacrifices you made that made other people’s lives better, and indirectly… your own
Inescapable moments in which time stood still while your heart and soul were nourished in love

If this content resonates with you and you’d love to find your Windows of Amazing…

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Here’s how we can help, if you’re genuinely committed to finding your Windows of Amazing in 2021.

Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement
Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million at no cost to the Non-Profit
Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-lines, like our teams have done for 95+ F500’s and numerous mid-sized companies over the years, at no net cost to the company

Intelligent Impact!

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

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