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Why Do You Keep Hiding Your Magic Wand?

“People who wait for a Magic Wand

Fail to see that… they ARE the Magic Wand!”

~ Thomas Leonard

Just imagine… dusting off your Magic Wand… that is almost limitless!

Did you lose your Magic Wand?

Have you tried to push the limits of your Magic Wand?

Why is your Magic Wand limited… or is it?

Unfortunately… your limited Magic Wand has a few high-tech features, with the last feature, overriding all other features, which can render it almost useless. Here are a few key features.

Believability Scanner – This determines your true belief in yourself. It’s 100% accurate.
Possibility Gauge – This determines the upper power limit of your Magic Wand and is totally in sync with your imagination.
Grit-O-Meter – This determines the amount of your grit, tenacity and ability to peel yourself off the mat… repeatedly after your disappointing, yet intelligent, failures.

Lastly; the feature that overrides all other features… The Self-Centered Litmus Tester.

This individually unique feature connects with your heart and soul to determine your genuine intentions

for using your Magic Wand… rendering your unique Magic Wand totally useless… all the way to limitless.

The more self-centered you are… the less powerful your Magic Wand!

Oops… I forgot to mention, your Magic Wand is sometimes deceitful. It can create the illusion of self-centered success in the form of your job title, income, etc. It’ll create the illusion that you and your Magic Wand did it all.

Unfortunately, when in reality… your Magic Wand was simply collecting dust waiting for you to use your

Talent Portfolio to positively change 1,000’s of other people’s lives while enabling you to experience the

most magical gift available… the privilege to lead an Unorthodoxly Amazing life!

Think about it deeply… before you forfeit holistic, Unorthodoxly Amazing!

Have you been squandering the unlimited potential of your Magic Wand?

Believe! Imagine! Get Gritty!

Become a Selfless, Admired Holistic Leader… without limits… Today!

Are you an Intelligent Holistic Leader, who loves making (not just talking) a

Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you love to intelligently create $100K+ donation streams, a month, for, or at, Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

Who changes the world? I believe it’s almost exclusively the Top-7%. They are the only ones with the Talent Portfolios and social consciences needed to actually implement significant positive social impact.

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ Blessings, JR

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Doers: Required… Likers: Optional… Who Are You?

“Don’t Just

Don’t just learn, experience. Don’t just read, absorb.

Don’t just change, transform. Don’t just relate, advocate.

Don’t just promise, prove.

Don’t just criticize, encourage. Don’t just think, ponder.

Don’t just take, give. Don’t just see, feel.

Don’t just dream, do. Don’t just hear, listen.

Don’t just talk, act. Don’t just tell, show.

Don’t just exist, live.”

― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

What type of Doer are you?

Q: Who is a bigger Doer? A $10/month donor or a billionaire who donates $1 Million?

A: If a person earns $5,000 a month and gives a meager $10 a month to a Non-Profit, that’s only 0.2% (1.0% would be $50) of their income. If a billionaire gives $1 Million dollars to a Non-Profit, that’s one-half as much as the $10 a month donor; or… a measly 0.1% of a billion (1.0% would be $10 Million).

Thus; the $10 a month Doer is donating twice as much as the billionaire!

Surprised?

There are many types of Doers ranging from the highly popular “Light Duty Doers” to the very few “No Matter What Needs Done Doers”! Here are 4 types of Doers.

Definition: Doer – Noun – The person who actually does something. Antonyms: Talker. Wisher. Hoper.

1 – Less Than Minimal Effort Doer – In just 1-Click… you can “Like” something on social media while watching TV, eating chips and thinking about doing something that changes other people’s lives. This is referred to as a “Liker” or a “Think About-er”.

2 – Tiny Burst Doer – In just 5-Minutes or less, you can donate $X a month to a Non-Profit from your $5,000+ salary. How does that 5-Minutes of Doing, make you feel? Sure the $X a month does help someone. Was this amount shared out of your financial excess? Let’s be frank; 5-Minutes a year, isn’t exactly going to win you a Nobel Peace Prize.

3 – Wanna Appear to be a Doer – If you are a Billionaire and donate $1 Million dollars in a few minutes by having your accountant and PR firm handle it for you, to get the most PR and best tax benefits, you’ll look awesome to the public and it’ll even open doors for you. Thus; in many ways, it’s merely an inexpensive quid-pro-quo exchange to get what you want. Mathematically, 1% of a billion is $10 Million. Thus, $1 Million is 0.1%. Let’s hope people don’t break their arms while patting themselves too hard on their backs… while others in various ways, feel the need to bow down to their generosity. Really… and we wonder why the world has so many social challenges!?

4 – Calloused Hands and Financial Sharer Doers – What won’t they do to help other people:

Whose hands are more calloused than their hands?
Whose financials are far worse than their financials?
Whose standard of living is far worse than their standard of living?

I realize many people are quite busy going through the commonly accepted “motions of life” that enable them to fit into society’s flawed definition of success, climbing the corporate ladder, putting in the necessary income earning time inside a company or hiding in a Non-Profit, while all are attempting to appear to care. Sounds so good… but, how’s that working out for the world?

If you think this is harsh, just take a look at the diverse, numerous social issues we’re facing…

and if you believe it’s all rosy… I stand corrected.

-We- have the privilege and option to come together and do better!

What will you actually -Do- differently?

Are your work clothes on and your sleeves rolled up… or, are the social issues not your problem?

Are you an Intelligent Doer, who loves making (not just talking) a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you love to intelligently create $100+ Thousand a month for Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Why Does Hunger, Lack of Diversity, Etc., Remain Plentiful?

“We are all in this world together, and the only test of our character that matters

is how we look after the least fortunate among us.

How we look after each other, not how we look after ourselves.

That’s all that really matters, I think.”

– Tommy Douglas

It’s 2021… and:

Billions don’t have clean water to drink… really?
Billions suffer or die from hunger shortages… really?
Diversity is still an unresolved issue… really?
Millions are homeless in rich America… really?

Why is this?

It’s actually quite simple… -We- want it that way! Really?!? Yes! (Hint: Otherwise it wouldn’t be this way!)

So… who are -We-?

-We- are the self-centered people who read about, talk about and create the —appearance— -We- want to fix it.

Case in point, recently a billionaire announced on social media that he was donating a million dollars to help with diversity. I’ve interacted with this person multiple times and was betting he was more interested in the —appearance— of wanting diversity; rather than genuinely wanting diversity. To test this theory, I professionally commented on the content and asked if he’d like to double or triple that donation to make an even greater positive impact on diversity.

My comment was deleted. The press release appears to have little to do with creating diversity and more to do with one of society’s common major cancers aligned with self-centeredness called, “Look At Me”!

This is not unusual, as many of you can surmise; and, I’m sure this person is a good person in their own respects. I have no less than 25+ examples of Non-Profits or people creating the —appearance— they want change… but…! Thus; -We- want these social problems; otherwise, we’d actually fix them.

Many Non-Profits and Foundations at corporations are the same. They aren’t seriously interested in solving

our shared social problems that affects real people; they are more interested in generating the

—appearance— they are trying to solve the problem. This provides sufficient PR.

If the people who raise money for:

Hunger didn’t have food to eat… do you think they would change?
Clean drinking water watched their child die from a water borne disease… do you think they would change?
Diversity were routinely discriminated against unfairly, including being incarcerated and unable to afford an attorney… do you think they would change?

The Cancer of Self-Centeredness has indirectly hurt, murdered, etc., more people

than any other criminal act we measure!

When will -We- change for the better?

When will -We- come together?

When will -You- see every other person as your Brother or Sister?

Will -You- join -Me- in seeing the world in a much less self-centered way???

Are you an Intelligent, Non-Self-Centered Leader, who loves making (not just talking) a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you love to intelligently create $100+ Thousand a month for Your Favorite Non-Profits at no ($0.00) net cost?

If you’re ready to help generate real, positives social changes… DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Is It Unnatural For People to “Come Together”?

“Remember, teamwork begins by building trust.

And the only way to do that is to overcome our need for invulnerability.”

~ Patrick Lencioni

Disasters, pandemics, etc., can not force people to collaborate… more than the minimum they believe is required!

Why do you think this happens… repeatedly?

Sure… 15% to 20% of people will collaborate no matter what is happening. What about the other 80% to 85%?

Our world’s track records consistently demonstrates that we’ve been incapable of fixing any major social challenge from war to climate change to equal respect for all, etc.

As people on this rock we call Earth, we have consistently failed at coming together continuously for the betterment of all. Does that mean it is just unnatural for people to come together… and our natural chemistry is to be self-centered?

In a management meeting, one of the best Presidents I’d worked with, opened the meeting by sharing his Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG). He followed this by saying bluntly, I know:

15% To 20% of you are excited, the hair on your neck is standing up and you’re thinking, get me out of this meeting I’m ready to get rolling!
15% To 20% of you are scared, because you don’t have much to contribute, want to maintain the status quo and are trying to figure out how to sabotage this effort!
60% To 70% of you, are on the fence.

Thus; I need that top 15% to 20%, when we leave here, to show that “on the fence” group, together, we can.

This Fortune 100, no-BS President said it the way it really was, while owning this uncomfortable reality… not everyone was talented, collaborative, etc.! And yes, we implemented the BHAG and there was a trail of incompetent talent a mile long that pursued other opportunities or at least got out of the way of progress.

We’ve just recognized 9/11/2001… but have we “come together” in the last 20 years? Most data demonstrates, we have not come together.

I met one of The Little Rock Nine… have we come fully together in the 60+ years on race relations since that historical event, driven by such a ludicrously basic human attribute as… skin color? Most data demonstrates, we have not come fully together.

The Covid pandemic… seems we’d rather stand in a circle and pee on each other’s legs than come together in a timely manner to solve this crisis that will continue to reek havoc far and wide into the future as the virus continues to mutate.

War after war… we continue to demonstrate, it’s apparently easier to fight with each other than come together. Sigh!

Self-Centeredness is the common thread of incurable cancer that weaves its way through

the world, corporations, Non-Profits, families and 1:1 relationships.

Just maybe…

an open mind and a healthy dose of unconditional love from 80% of us…

could actually bring us together!

Will you join me?

Are you an Intelligent, Collaborative Leader, who loves making (not just talking) a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you love to intelligently create $100+ Thousand a month for Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Is It Better to Have Loved & Lost, Or… ?

“She wore her scars as her best attire.

A stunning dress made of hellfire.”

~ Louis D’Alto

What is your preference… loved and lost or to never have loved at all?

We have many loves in life… that special person, careers, hobbies, etc.

However, the pain of losing someone or something can be so great, after it ends, many say they wished they had never started.

How do you feel? Do you have a special –gauge– you use to measure, “is it worth it?”… such as, a gauge forecasting “how long you believe it will last”, to determine if you should even take the risk and get started?

Lady Vulnerability is always present, just daring you to be growingly raw… every step of the way!

The most fascinating thing about deciding if it’s better to have loved and lost, or to never have loved at all… it must be answered at the –-beginning– when we decide to start or not start something… a relationship, a new career, move to a new location, etc., without any assurance that it’ll all work out well.

The only assurance…

the odds are increasingly against you, the more Unorthodoxly Amazing you pursue!

Here are some things to consider when making these gut-wrenching decisions.

If it worked out Amazingly, but ultimately ended within X months, downright awfully… would you still have done it again?
Is there a high-enough probability, it could be Kick-Ass Amazing? Hint: check with your heart and soul… not your mind (which often tricks us into fleeing when we should stay and staying when we should flee).
Does it have the possibility to positively change the lives of others… thus; you’re not merely making a self-centered decision?
Is there a likelihood it’ll become part of Thee 5-Minute Highlight Video of Your Life?

Don’t confuse this blog’s question with the similar question, “Is it better to – think —

you loved…”, but you really didn’t love. We all know how that story ends.

The litmus test for me, resides in the question…

is there a high enough probability (which sometimes is less than 1%)

that it would be Unorthodoxly Amazing?

If yes; I’m all in! Nonetheless, often… life happens and it ends less-than-stellar… sigh!

But, for those rare diamonds who make life Unorthodoxly Amazing… and you mustered up the courage to not forfeit a potential, Unorthodoxly Amazing privilege (a more appreciated opportunity), just because it might not work…welcome the privilege to have lost!

How about you…

Is it better to have loved and lost… or to have never loved at all?

Are you an Amazing Leader, who loves making (not just talking) a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you love to intelligently create $100+ Thousand a month for Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Do You Starch Your Undersized Underwear Or…?

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.

Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow.

Let reality be reality.

Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ― Lao Tzu

Have you ever worked with or been around someone who wore their underwear

way too tight and definitely starched them?

They can barely flex their thinking, have extremely rigid rituals and look like a deer (with tighty-whiteys… now that’s a visual you probably haven’t imagined!) in the headlights when you ask them to consider a fresh-way of thinking.

The most fascinating part about these types of people… they truly believe (in their minds) their thinking

is analogous to the perfectly fitted attire worn by a runway model from Victoria Secret or GQ!

Flip this around, and the most creative thinkers / doers in the Game of Life, see themselves as too rigid and are constantly trying to get better. Meanwhile the rigid ones are trying to tell everyone how to think!

It seems there are at least 3 consistent components of the Starched, Too-Tight Underwear Crowd.

Listening is “Average” or “Below Average”. This seems self-explanatory.

Trying to maintain their position authority professionally or personally (vs. growing) is critical to them. When they have what they want, any change they believe might create the possibility of them losing whatever “it” is… is too threatening.
1. Interestingly, this approach is the most common way to push Amazing people or opportunities out of your life.
2. This is the exact opposite of what the Undersized, Over-Starched Crowd wants, but they lack the ability to embrace Unorthodoxly Amazing… because it is… unorthodox.

Being vulnerable is too uncomfortable for them to consider or actually practice. Warning! The more holistically talented you are… the more you’ll intimidate the Undersized, Over-Starched Crowd.

So… how do you avoid getting into relationships with the conforming, traditionalists?

Determine if they genuinely appreciate you and all your warts, particularly the warts they’ll never fully understand about you.

Determine if they use “We” decision making aligned with the relationship or “I” decision making aligned with self-centeredness.
1. Many can use “We” decision making on routine decisions, but on jugular decisions… often their “I Decision Maker” takes control.
2. Their “I Decision Maker” can be so strong… that merely discussing jugular decision before they make an “I” decision… isn’t even a consideration… because this would make them vulnerable while requiring them to listen.

Determine if they are working their ass off to understand you while growing as an individual to elevate the relationship.

If you ask someone, “What is the difference between a regular old rock and a diamond?”, they typically will share several accurate attributes. The obvious difference is how rare diamonds are and how common rocks are.

You can shine a rock every day, buy the best rock shiner from Amazon… but in the end… it’s still a rock… not a diamond!

Diamonds are rare. Find the rough diamonds, regardless of how unorthodoxly they fit into your life and stop being surrounded by rocks that you’re trying to shine into diamonds!

Lastly; be flexibly intelligent… skip the starch… flex with Lycra!

Are you a Rock… or a Diamond committed to making (not just talking) a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $100+ Thousand a month for Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Are You a Shallow Pool or Deep Trench Thinker?

At an uninspiring sales meeting, Thomas J. Watson interrupted, saying,

“The trouble with every one of us is that we don’t think enough.

We don’t get paid for working with our feet — we get paid for working with our heads”.

Watson then wrote THINK on the easel.

Asked later what he meant by the slogan, Watson replied, “By THINK I mean take everything into consideration.

I refuse to make the sign more specific.

If a person just sees THINK, they’ll find out what I mean.

We’re not interested in a logic course.”

Have you ever noticed how many people confuse Social Media “Reactions” with the author’s competence?

Have you ever noticed how Social Media content, requiring deeper thinking, just isn’t overly popular?

Have you ever noticed, when attractive people, who naturally attract a larger group of followers, post emotionally charged content, it is often wildly popular?

All this is extremely predictable and makes sense in a capitalistic model. Kudos to those who get and -choose to use- advertising basics… eye catching, emotional content that’s simple for the large “Average” audience, to be attracted!

It’s been fascinating to watch the Simone Biles and Naomi Osaka’s situations play out on Social Media while people take vehement sides. The eloquent, objective and factual part… less than 1% of the people with strong opinions, one way or the other, actually know the people in the controversies… and their full stories.

How does Shallow Pool Thinking tie into Real World Social Challenges?

X Million women were abused last night… do they get to call off work and get paid while they take a mental health day?
X Million single people, primarily women, are working 2-3 jobs to make ends meet for their children… do you think they have some serious mental challenges that nobody is helping them sustainably solve?
X Million people will go without food today… do you think they have more severe mental challenges than multi-millionaires having a mentally challenging day?

Yes; each person needs to attend to their mental challenges and those with the resources do. But, the people with sufficient resources represents less than 10% of this population. Nonetheless, they are -almost required- to fight through mental challenges. Who is actually helping / doing for the 90%, who don’t have the resources?

How many Billion (with a B) people with similar or worse challenges would love to switch places (but not switch their appreciation levels), with popular, richer people in the news that are having mental challenges?

The key… the less-rich get to keep their Holistic-Appreciation Gifts!

Let’s bring this full circle and tie a nice neat red ribbon on this controversial topic.

Very few would disagree, that our one shared world is in shambles from global warming, to war, to hunger, to the separation between the Haves and Have-Nots.

Collectively, as one world, we have refused to do the deep thinking needed, and intelligent

actions aligned with this deep thinking to live in a more compassionate, healthier

and holistically beautiful world for nearly everyone.

Yet… together… despite our less-than-stellar past decision making…

we can still create that beautiful world!

The hard part… we need to start doing some serious

deep thinking and genuinely, actually (vs. just talking about it) working together!

We won’t fix our shared world by simply being popular, distributing “Likes”, providing superficial band-aids, doing good once in a blue moon while telling everyone about it so it makes us look like we’re doing this all the time, etc.

In the words of Thomas J. Watson… THINK!

Are you an Intelligent, Thinking Leader committed to making (not just talking about) a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $100+ Thousand a month for Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

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Is Patience a Virtue, PIA or a Complex Ally?

“You better get busy living, because dying’s a pain in the ass.”

— Frank Sinatra

Have you ever had your patience wear thin?

How’d that work out for you?

Have you ever been so patient (slow) that you missed the opportunity? How’d you feel later?

Have you developed your Intelligent Patience for regular stuff, like everyone else… but not for jugular issues that significantly impact your life?

The success drivers for Intelligent Patience are, as you can imagine since it’s so challenging… complex!

Thus; we can choose to exercise the patience needed… to figure out Intelligent-Patience; or, just forfeit opportunities due to our lack of ability to develop Intelligent-Patience. Let’s look at a few of these success drivers and attempt to figure out how to optimize our patience.

Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) is paramount to Intelligent Patience. Most mistakes aren’t created by the wrong level of patience; rather, most are due to less-than-stellar DMQ. Interestingly; when things don’t turn out well, often we justify them by thinking we moved too fast, slow, etc. This is usually not the case. First; you need to determine who you really are and who you’re genuinely committed to becoming.

What type of life do you want to lead, on the spectrum from Good Enough…to… Kick-Ass Amazing?
What timeframe do you believe is needed for you to achieve your commitment to leading a life that’s Good Enough… to… Kick-Ass Amazing?
What possibilities will be forfeited if you don’t choose the optimal patience level aligned with leading a life that’s Good Enough… to… Kick-Ass Amazing?

Here’s a simple scoring system to estimate your Patience Performance level, on a scale from 0 to 2,500.

Score / Scale Question

0.0 to 5.0 ——– How high is your Vision for Possibility?

0.0 to 10.0 —— How high is your Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality)?

0.0 to 5.0 ——- How high is the overall patience level of your Inner-Circle?

0.0 to 10.0 —— How high is your ability to Execute-Excellently (Ex-Ex) your decisions?

Simply multiply your scores together and then divide by 2,500 to get the percent likelihood of your Success-Patience.

For example, if your scores are 4.0, 7.5, 3.0 and 8.0, your probability of success would be:

4.0 x 7.5 x 3.0 x 8.0 = 720 / 2,500 = 29%

Don’t like your odds? Change you!

Intelligent Patience… a diamond competency in the game of life!

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Are you an Intelligently-Patient Leader committed to making (not just talking about) a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $100+ Thousand a month for Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Is it, “Love Things & Use People” or “Love People & Use Things?

“You must remember to love people and use things, rather than to love things and use people.”

― Fulton J. Sheen

“Humans are meant to be loved and objects to be used, but in confusion, we started to use the humans and love the objects – when this changes, everybody will be happy and content.”

― Abhijit Naskar

If you created a chart, showing how often each of these two phrases are spoken… how would your chart be divided?

If you created a chart, showing how often each of these two phrases are actually done consistently (not once in awhile when it’s convenient)… how would your chart be divided?

Why the difference in your charts?

Controversial Reality Check…

If you love people more than things you have or will get… should you get vaccinated for Covid-19?
If we love people more than things we have or will get… why do we have global warming, resulting in floods, fires, etc.?
If you love people more than things you have or will get… will 6,000 children continue to die from water-borne diseases every day, will socio-economically challenged families continue to be left behind or continue to have higher incarceration rates, etc.?
If you love people more than things you have or will get… are you in the majority who only share from their excesses; or, are you in the minority who share from their core resources?

Let’s spin these questions into a “come to Jesus meeting”. If Jesus knocked on your door today, evaluated your house, cars, clothes, vacations, choices on how you’ve used your money, time, etc., to observe if you love things or people… how would that conversation go? <Don’t answer that question just yet!>

I’m not worthy to judge anyone; while at the same time, the unbiased facts on how we collectively treat others, particularly those with less, has been made abundantly clear!

Who are you… with no mask, no excuses and no BS?

Relationships: How many people get divorced or breakup when their lifestyle is negatively changed? Is a man more of a loving gentleman if he opens the car door to a small Kia for her… or more if he opens the car door to a sporty Mercedes AMG? Is a woman more lovingly spectacular if she sets up and pays for dinner at a 5-Star restaurant… than at Applebees?

Are relationships more about lifestyle (things) or love?

Do your life choices demonstrate you prioritize loving things and using people… or… loving people and using things?

<Back to the come to Jesus question you had on hold> The genuine answer isn’t in your head; since, your mind will justify any position you take, in order to make you feel good.

The genuine answer… is in your heart and soul!

Be careful! Tones of self-centeredness can really sting!

Paradoxically, giving of yourself is the most self-centered thing you can do;

because it enables you to lead a purpose-driven life!

Choose wisely… people are counting on you!

Are you a Top-16% Leader committed to making (not just talking about) a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $1+ Million for Your Favorite Non-Profits in less than 20 hour a year?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Have You Ever Had a Pea Under Your Mattress & Couldn’t Sleep?

“Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.”

― Alfred A. Montapert

“People that have trust issues only need to look in the mirror.

There they will meet the one person that will betray them the most.”

― Shannon L. Alder

What if there was a 12” rock, instead of a pea, under your mattress?

The pea and the rock are merely analogies to the perceived size of our problems.

To one person, the problem seems like a pea. To another, that similar problem seems like a 12” rock. Same type of problem, yet completely different perceptions. Interestingly, both people will be vehemently supported by their Inner-Circles! Both “camps” will be vehemently affirming, that this same problem, is most definitely a pea or most definitely a 12” rock.

Which is it… a pea or a 12” rock? It’s both and everything in-between.

One of the eight components of Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) is Inner-Circle-DMQ. Thus; who you decide to have in your Inner-Circle is critical. Look for people who inform you about… not just affirm… your decisions. Preferably, although it’s humbling, pursue building Inner-Circles who have a Collective-DMQ higher than your own.

For similar problems, you’ll notice one person is still genuinely happy, giving, etc., while another person will need to take a mental health day, meet with a professionals, etc.

So… why such a wide-ranging interpretation of the same type of problems?

Unfortunately, the solutions need to be as customized as the interpretations of the problem. Here’s a few things to consider, when you’re dealing with a “problem”, and they might help you sleep a little better.

Fast forward your life… when you’re 100… and / or on your death bed. Will you even remember this “problem”?
Do you have the ability to positively influence the outcome or is it completely in other people’s decision-making hands?
Lastly, but critically important if you’re pursuing Unorthodoxly-Amazing, what will you forfeit, if you don’t effectively handle the “problem / opportunity” well?

Your unique interpretations of, and genuine answers to these questions, will help guide you to the best decisions for you, while aligning you with the trajectory of your overall life that your Holistic-DMQ is creating… Good Enough… Not So Good or Unorthodoxly Amazing… but all you!

Now, the jugular decision overriding all these micro-situations in your life is… what kind of life are you pursuing?

2 – A “Good Enough” life where you’re primarily self-centered first and then help others with your excess time,

money, etc., and you fit neatly and happily into the Social Norm’s definition of “success”.

… Or…

1 – An “Unorthodoxly-Amazing” life where you’re lit up inside, passionate about life and only a small percentage

of people understand you… but the ones that do… are hyper-appreciative for you being in their lives!

Unorthodoxly Amazing isn’t for most people for a couple of key reasons. The basic reason, like it or not, is just the simple, natural Bell-Curve which objectively means 84% of any big enough group will be “Average” or “Below Average”. Thus, we’re mathematically left with only 16% having the ability to be “Above Average” or higher, with the highest level, such as an Elon Musk (in many, not all respects) being an “Outlier”.

What will it take for you to be an Unorthodoxly-Amazing human, relationship partner or community steward?

Do you want to be in the Top-16%?

Rainbows of Unorthodoxly-Amazing don’t last forever!

May you be blessed to find as many Rainbows of Unorthodoxly-Amazing on your special and one-of-a-kind Life Journey!

Are you a Top-16% Leader looking to make a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $50,000 an hour for Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

How’s Your “Arranged Marriage” With Time Going?

“Time sometimes flies like a bird, sometimes crawls like a snail;

but a person is happiest when they don’t even notice whether it passes swiftly or slowly.” – Ivan Turgenev

“At the end of your life,

you will never regret not having passed one more test,

not winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal.

You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, or a parent.” – Barbara Bush

Neither abuse nor irreconcilable differences… will get you out of this marriage!

Your alimony payments… are due daily and never ending!

The nagging is constant, every second of your marriage to Time… just like clockwork!

And Time always gets the last word… until you finally run out of Time… which is ultimately, Time’s decision!

In your prenuptial agreement with Time… it has but one sentence, “I, Time, promise you nothing!”!

So why not embrace, cuddle with and listen intentionally to the Life Partner we all have… called Time.

Time is extremely consistent to the untrained mind; yet, quite inconsistent at the same time to the more observant mind. Sure, we can depend on Time to be there 24 hours a day, as long as Time doesn’t “unexpectedly” leave us, whether we’re ready or not. Unfortunately, Time is quite unpredictable when it comes to letting us know when we are “departing”!

Change of View: Most people think Time is some mathematical formula which includes seconds, minutes, etc. However, very few realize that Time isn’t a mathematical equation at all.

Time is an emotion!
Time is an experience!
Time is a motivator!
Time is a teacher!
Time is an accountability partner!

Best of all… Time is our inseparable Life Partner that isn’t going anywhere… until we separate forever!

So… how do we make our marriage with Time insatiably attractive?

Create times when you ask Time to just stop… for those special times!
- Time will stop when life is perfect!
- Let these experiences nourish your soul while you remain effortlessly engulfed in the moment!

Develop appreciation for all the attributes, from Amazing to downright ugly, that Time brings to the marriage.
- When you listen openly, Time will help you make better, uniquely-you decisions, vs. readily available and socially popular decisions that are Good Enough!

Respect and learn from the times when Time is putting you through hell!
- Time is attempting to help you make better decisions in the future… or let you know your past decisions were less-than-stellar… and, you need to repair them!

This weekend, I was blessed when Time tapped me on the shoulder and reminded me of something I needed to do, but hadn’t done since college. Time has an Amazing memory and seems to always know you deep down, better than you know yourself.

Question: Since Time can be unpredictable, how do we attempt to manage our marriage with Time?

Answer: View your life journey and marriage to Time as a series of interconnected and overlapping windows of time vs. days, years, etc.

Examples: Childhood, teenager, college, marriage, parenting, divorce, special relationships, etc.; not on a calendar basis!

What is Time telling you?

The key is to create as many Amazing Windows of Time along your unique life journey…

while humbly realizing that nothing lasts forever.

Most people live their lives trying to optimize the Good Enough times… vs. Amazing Windows of Time.

Blah! Not me! How about You?

May your prearranged marriage with Time last long, be mutually appreciative and be Amazing Beyond Words!

Are you a “time is money” or Social Impact Leader looking to make a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $50,000 an hour for Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Absence of Conflict Isn’t Harmony… Do You Agree?

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when

we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled.

For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts

and start searching for different ways or truer answers.”

― M. Scott Peck

Have you ever had a minor disagreement with someone who reacted as though you cut their jugular vein… and all you were doing was investing energy into creating something better, because you actually cared?

How many professional or personal relationships have you been in where:

The introduction of healthy conflict wasn’t handled in a positive manner?
You introducing controversial issues, essentially, just wasn’t permitted?
You have grown exponentially, because someone created healthy conflict with you… and, they didn’t let you push them away (even though you tried your hardest to push them away)?

Sure, it’s nice to have everything go smoothly or smoothly enough, especially when you’re mentally fatigued.

However, if you’re a black swan and have the Conflict Resiliency Competency, you hunger to get better and absolutely love when others invest their energy into you, to help you get better… no matter how much it hurts at the moment!

Professionally, there was a wonderful place I worked and we had some of the most Steve Job-ish ruckus meetings… and then we’d all go out and have a drink, laugh, etc., afterwards. Our team led the U.S. in nearly every key metric measured, year-after-year!

Personally, never going to bed angry, any day, with your significant other was a wonderful practice that very few couples have the capacity to actually implement. If you’re not able to practice this daily, do you love the other person and does the other person, genuinely love you?

In our professional and personal relationships, very few people will love you enough to help you get better. This small percentage of people willing to help you get better, also have a Range of Resistance they’ll tolerate from you, when you push back against their well-intentioned help.

This Range of Resistance tests their genuine love for you.

Is it shallow like a mud puddle or deep like the Pacific?

If you want to determine who genuinely loves you, from who only loves you when it’s convenient, just observe who is still loving you when it isn’t so easy to love you and you, they or both of you are valiantly pushing away, during those windows of time when things aren’t so rosy.

The Marriage & Divorce Carousel, for couples staying together for 7 years or less, is typically a Sold-Out Ride. To get a ticket onto the Carousel, you just need to both be in a good-enough place in the beginning, have a minimal amount of conflict and be reasonably compatible to meet each other’s short-term self-serving interests (e.g. nice restaurants, travel, etc.).

Unfortunately, the ride ends, when healthy conflict isn’t handled in an unconditionally loving way… rather, it ends in a self-serving, what’s in it for me way. Working through initial conflicts in relationships, while learning much about how the other handles conflicts, is a valuable process. If they practically bleed to death from a minor scratch (minor disagreement)… the relationship isn’t likely to end well when a real challenge arises. I now observe extremely closely, how both professionals and possibly significant others, deal with conflict. I have no interest, professionally or personally, in getting a ticket for that temporary Carousel ride!

Professionally and personally, learning to be genuinely you, sharing your honest concerns with significant or

potentially significant people in your life… is a wonderful self-cleansing process!

Only the ones who genuinely love you, despite not-always-rosy situations, are the “keepers”!

News Flash: Most people whom you provide honest concerns to, because you care… will find the relationship exit door quite quickly.

There’s no need to ask people if they love you.

Paradoxically… make it easy for people to let you down, walk away when things aren’t perfect

or just check out so they don’t have to deal with any degree of conflict!

Simultaneously, provide people the opportunity to show you their love through:

Perseverance to endure challenges, while not making mountains out of mole hills
Patience to not over-react to anything that may be less-than-perfect
Grit for helping the relationship reach its potential
Flexibility to listen while actually getting better in the relationship.

Those left still loving you… these are the rare “keepers” in life!

Warning: Self-Serving people don’t believe they are self-serving people (which is a blog all its own). Nonetheless, you’ll observe they only offer camouflaged “what’s in it for me” short leashes in relationships. It may be painful, but it’s best to discover this sooner rather than later.

Conflict is the great unmasker on who people genuinely are!

Are you a Conflict-Resilient Leader looking to make, not just Good Enough, but a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $1+ Million for each of Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Forgiveness… A Gladiator Battle Between the Mind & Heart!

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Louis B. Smedes

“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” – Robert Quillen

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” – Paul Boese

Do you struggle with giving or receiving the second rarest gift of all… forgiveness?

Why is the gift of forgiveness so difficult to genuinely give?

When we offer genuine forgiveness, an interesting dynamic takes place that makes most people quite uncomfortable. As a giver of genuine forgiveness, we lose control of the relationship and the ensuing, unknown response from the recipient, to accept or deny our genuine forgiveness. (Reminder: Control in a relationship is not a healthy component and the relationship should exist because the people in the relationship -want- to be in the relationship… not because they -need- to be in the relationship.)

Why is the gift of forgiveness so difficult to genuinely accept?

When we accept genuine forgiveness, we’re giving the control back to the giver and putting ourselves in a position to possibly be taken advantage of in the future. Whereas, if we just hold a grudge (i.e. don’t accept the apology), we maintain control over the relationship and research has shown, most people actually feel better about themselves when they hold a grudge against others (but self-servingly, not against themselves for their decisions).

Should forgiveness always be granted? Do you feel better when you choose to refuse to apologize? What do you do if people don’t accept your apology? These are all great questions that bring both benefits and consequences to you for your unique decisions. Thus; Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality), as always, is paramount.

Here are 4 Types of betrayals most people experience, that lead to the necessity for forgiveness to take place.

Childhood
Friendships
Professional
Romantic

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Most people consider themselves to be forgiving. But, if you peel the onion back, if you believe you are a forgiving person, is it genuinely accurate; or, is it accurate primarily when there is something to be gained by you? If we consider ourselves to be forgiving, is it possible, that many of us (not all) are merely being arrogant about who we are? If forgiveness was / is self-serving, it becomes attractive to provide apparent (vs. genuine) forgiveness.

I believe it is healthy to consider forgiveness a process of intelligently fluid decisions and actions; rather than a one-time act with just words.

The first step in the process is to create a shared agreement on what actually happened and how it fits into the overall, cumulative relationship. The cumulative relationship is critical, since the issue that created the need for forgiveness has likely been brewing throughout the relationship in multiple, interconnected ways. Once this agreement has been reached, a genuine apology can now be generated and accepted or denied.

How do you genuinely forgive yourself without any justifications? Since self-forgiveness enhances our self-esteem, it is much, much easier for us to forgive ourselves… and feel better. But, doing so in a healthy, raw and unbiased way is the only way to accept genuine self-forgiveness. For me, acknowledging that I completely messed up, is quite helpful… no excuses, while owning my decisions 100%, regardless of how nasty these swamp creature are, that were created by me.

Going full circle on forgiveness… so, genuinely saying “I’m sorry” and genuinely changing, is really, paradoxically, a self-serving act;

since the apology may be accepted or denied… yet, we are genuinely sorry, regardless if it is accepted or denied!

It is an unconditional gift we give from our heart and soul!

Yes; genuine forgiveness in relationships, that is both offered and accepted wholeheartedly, is a continuous fluid dance

done by clumsy, uncoordinated; yet, genuinely apologetic and appreciative people!

In case you’re wondering, the rarest gift of all is… unconditional love… which is required in Amazing relationships!

Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) -IS- the Secret to Amazing Windows of Time on your Life’s Journey!

Are you a Purpose-Driven Leader… looking to make a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $1+ Million for each of Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Regrets – 2 Types – Which Do You Have?

“If only. Those must be the two saddest words in the world.” – Mercedes Lackeyo

“The only things I regret, and the only things I’ll ever regret are things I didn’t do.

In the end, that’s what we mourn.

The paths we didn’t take.

The people we didn’t touch.”

– Scott Spencer

Most think of the word, “regret” in a very traditional, well-defined manner. This “script” you’ve “accepted”… could be flawed.

“Regret” has been clearly defined by the scholars. However, is its popularly accepted definition, as straight-forward as it appears on the surface?

Just maybe… as with all emotionally charged words, we’re looking at the word, “regret” in only a dichotomous way. Just maybe, we should look at regret, not from a black-and-white perspective (we have or don’t have regret), but from multiple shades of gray.

Let’s look a little deeper into the 2 primary types of regrets.

Type #1: No Regrets of the Mind – This is an eloquent, universally accepted definition for regret. We analyze our decisions, justify our choices and claim, “no regrets”. How wonderfully healthy for our (self-serving) mind! We now believe, in our mind (after it confirms repeatedly) that we’re in total peace with our inner-selves, life goes on and our minds continue trying to convince us, we’re happy.

If it would only stop there… it would be so, so much simpler!

But, we have a heart and a soul, that aren’t quite as easily “sold” on this

traditional, troubling rationalization by the mind, regarding regret.

One of the mind’s most important roles, is to enable us mentally, to function productively in society. Thus; the mind is fascinatingly powerful at handling physical pain so we can function physically and mental pain so we can function mentally. The mind enables us to deal with a wide variety of challenges during our tumultuous life journey.

However, subconsciously, major regrets are often quite troublesome to the mind, not because it’s difficult for it to self-servingly reframe our regrets so we feel good… which the mind, again, does exceptionally well…but, because the heart and the soul refuse to let the mind move on completely, if they know deep down, we genuinely have regrets, that’ll be carried throughout the remainder of our lives.

Type #2: Regrets of the Heart and Soul – These are genuine regrets the heart and soul cling to, that have merely been glossed over by the mind, in a superficial attempt to enable our minds to continue functioning sufficiently in life. Nonetheless, these genuine regrets live on in our hearts and souls. Your heart and soul will weep a little (or on some days a lot) every day. This can not be avoided (in mentally healthy people); and, it’s a beautiful (albeit difficult) thing! It provides inner integrity to you as a real person.

Regret… created when possibly forfeiting Amazing… is the most expensive mortgage payment you’ll ever make in life!

More importantly; accepting genuine regrets of the heart and soul, enables us to make better decisions in the future; rather than repeating the same mistakes, while having our minds continuing to justify our decisions, and repeating the cycle. Also… sometimes life provides us with 2nd (or 3rd for the slower learners like me) opportunities to get it right!

Most people say something to the effect,

“I did all I could”; or,
”I gave it my best shot”; or,
“I really tried to make it work, but”.

This self-talk helps the mind believe these are true and there shouldn’t be any regrets.

Just imagine how easy life would be if this was genuinely true!

Just lie to ourselves and all is good! Sure, sometimes we do everything (rarely!) we can and it doesn’t turn out the way we’d hoped… but, most of the time… truth be told by the heart and soul… we really didn’t do everything we could have done!

Integrity of your heart and soul are priceless…

while integrity of the mind can easily be purchased at “Self Talk Bank”!

Unfortunately, the “interest rate” charged daily by “Self Talk Bank” is so high it’s painful and the loan will never be paid off,

until you satisfy the debt with both your heart and soul!

Here’s an interesting twist that may help you, as it has surprisingly helped my heart and soul more than I initially thought. On one major regret, I went back to the person and talked with them comprehensively… no stone unturned. The regret wasn’t because someone was harmed in any direct way for any act, comment, etc. Rather, in this case, the regret was created when I forfeited a possibility. It was an Amazing option offered to me, that I didn’t pursue; thus, creating a genuine major regret.

Sharing your regrets with those whom you’ve created your regrets, may also be therapeutic to you.

Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) -IS- the Secret to Amazing Windows of Time on your Life’s Journey and the preventer of regrets!

Are you a No Regrets, Purpose-Driven Leader… looking to make a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $1+ Million for each of Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

Social Media – A Great Way to Artificially Amplify Self-Esteem!

“Despite its revolutionary promises, Facebook can turn our everyday lives into that wedding

we have all heard about: the one where the bride chooses her prettiest friends,

not her best friends, to be bridesmaids.

It can feel like a popularity contest where being Liked is what matters,

being the best is the only respectable option,

how our partners look is more important than how they act,

the race to get married is on, and we have to be clever all the time.

It can be just another place, not to be, but to seem.”

― Meg Jay

Are you in the Top-1% (kudos) for Social Media metrics… or the Bottom-99%?

If you’re in the Bottom-99%, how do you feel, during those times when you are a lot more popular?

If you’re in the Bottom-99%, how do you feel when (what you believe to be) your valuable content…just isn’t popular?

In case you’re wondering; yes, I’m in the Bottom-99% and am highly likely to stay in that category. Most of the reasons for being in the Bottom-99%, make legitimate, rationale sense. Just maybe, it’s because who I am personally and what we do professionally, just isn’t that popular… it’s actually quite unorthodox.

Personally; asking people courteously in your Inner-Circle… to be Amazing or for them to spend their time where they fit in better and are happier, may sound harsh. Is it really? For many, just maybe, “Good” is plenty “Good Enough” and the holistic effort needed to be Amazing, is just too demanding, too risky and not worth the effort! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being “Good Enough” and fitting in well. It certainly makes fitting into the mainstream much, much easier!

Professionally, we help companies save $ Millions so they can donate a % to Non-Profit causes. Again, most leaders have egos too big to “permit” an outside firm from coming in to save them $XX Millions… because less-than-stellar leaders think someone might not look good. Fortunately, 100+ F500’s have used our teams’ services over the years to save $1.5+ Billion and donate to various Social Impact initiatives they support. Intelligent Leadership!

Again, what we do isn’t, oddly enough, popular. Most companies’ goals are to “Look Good Enough”, not to actually optimize their Social Impact! For most companies and Executives… it’s about them… not Social Impact.

Social Media is fascinating, not so much in observing what gets put on Social Media; rather, working to understand why the “content selected and how it’s presented”, are so popular.

For years, and to this day, advertiser on Social Media platforms, TV, etc., have understood what gets people’s attention. Now, everyday people, who want to elevate their positive feedback, use a similar model to what TV has used for years, whether they acknowledge it or not. Don’t you just love the people who believe it’s their content and not their ______ ?

Look closely at the content that gets significant positive feedback. Compare all aspects of the content to that of an effective commercial on TV. See the similarities? This is smart advertising, but…

When we look at LinkedIn for example, a professional platform for talent to share its… talents… we see similar dynamics, to every other media for advertising, taking place. One of the key differentiators between TV and Social Media, is the ability for 2-way conversations. Imagine if you could directly tell the person in charge of your (one-way) TV commercial, that the advertiser offended you and the advertiser’s content would not show on your TV anymore.

Here are a few categories of interesting participants on Social Media. How do you handle each of them?

+ Pushers – People or organizations solely committed to spewing out information that makes them look good, but have no interest in helping you. Companies looking for positive PR are notorious for doing this. Can you blame them? Companies have been doing this for decades. However, they’re duplicitous in their communication when they either don’t change for the better or cover up their less-than-stellar decisions, by promoting the 10%, rare positive occurrences they actually do, to help offset their bad PR.

+ Emotional Non-Profits – If you follow the objective Bell-Curve, 84% are “Average” or “Below Average”. Thus; 16% are “Above Average”. The key to determining whether a Non-Profit is in the Top-16%, is quite simple. Just find out if they’re committed to their cause or if they just want you to send them money.

There are many ways to help Non-Profits, but 84% aren’t really interested in generating the optimal amount of Social Impact. Let’s not get confused on where the $’s we send get used. The first donation money goes to paying the staff salaries and benefits. When’s the last time you heard about a Non-Profit, “not making payroll”? The rest goes to the cause. Thus; if the Non-Profit’s expenses are $5.0 Million and the Non-Profit is already bringing in $20.0 Million… just watch how hard (not hard) the staff is willing to work to get an extra $1, $21 or $101 Million… knowing (for most) that $0.00 will be helping their personal finances? Harsh… sure! And yes, I too didn’t realize this until we started helping Non-Profits… Sigh! The Non-Profit’s committed to their cause will love our Intelligent Social Impact model that raises $ Millions at $0.00 net cost. It’s all about Non-Profit Leadership!

The genuinely committed to their cause Non-Profits, are out-of-the-box leaders, actually doing new things to raise more money and change 1,000’s of more lives!

+ People Looking to Be Popular – People providing content that helps them be popular, but it’s tough to do anything with their content to help you improve. This includes pictures or videos of attractive (themselves or others) people that get 100’s or 1,000’s of reactions; but, you really can’t do anything productive with the content. This is similar to TV advertising with attractive models. There’s an interesting twist you’ve probably observed. In order to create more popularity, the outfit selection is often, not exactly “professionally conservative”. I’ve never commented on anyone’s looks, and typically disconnect from the ones who are clearly using physical appeal without content to increase their popularity.

+ Woe Is Me – People talking about how tough life is and the wave of sympathy pours in… but very few people actually do anything to help the person. The ones on the Mental Health Spectrum (and there are as many as 1 in 3, per research) are quite serious about their need for mental health initiatives. I’m not a medical doctor, but it seems that surrounding yourself with people that help you optimize your mental and physical health, should be a priority… and 100’s of reactions from people who don’t actually do anything to help you… just doesn’t seem to be more than a temporary nicety.

+ I’m Important… and Who Are You? – These are people who are similar to “Pushers”, who are trying to grow their following for self-serving purposes and really have no interest in collaborating with you. As a matter of fact, they’ll even try to quiet you if you ask them for help or don’t agree 100% with their content. They seek “affirmation” not “information”.

Bringing this back full-circle; why are you using Social Media? Is it to artificially amplify your self-esteem; or, is any amplification of your self-esteem, merely the byproduct of your great content shared with the spirit of helping others?

Only you know the truth in your heart… not your head, because it just tells you what you want to hear.

Are you a boring, talented and genuinely High-Quality Leader… looking to make a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $1+ Million for each of Your Favorite Non-Profits?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.

Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR

How High or Low, is Your Relationship Quotient (RQ)?

“I hate when people confuse education with intelligence,

you can have a bachelor’s degree and still be an idiot”.

~ Elon Musk

How many people have you worked with or met, that had a low RQ?

What is your RQ?

How to calculate your RQ, has not been standardized. Nonetheless, it can be calculated in multiple, materially-accurate ways. Thus; maybe you won’t be able to precisely calculate your RQ, but on a scale of 0.0 to 10.0, if you’re:

8.5+— You’re High
6.5 to 8.4 — You’re Above Average
3.5 to 6.4 — You’re Average

RQ is critically important, while having more facets than an eloquently cut diamond…both professionally and personally! If your RQ is too low professionally, you’ll need to pursue a new career path. If your RQ is too low personally, the most important relationships will either walk out of your life; or, you will, mistakenly escort the best ones out of your life (while justifying and genuinely believing, your rationale was solid for doing so).

RQ is not an independent competency-set. It’s a subset under Holistic-DMQ. We use our Holistic-DMQ to determine (subjectively) our RQ level, determine how to improve our RQ and decide how to surround ourselves with an Inner-Circle that facilitates increasing our RQ. Thus; RQ has the potential to lead us to Windows of Amazing, once we first, make Amazing decisions. Windows of Time are critical in the DMQ Process, since nothing lasts forever, so love each Window of Amazing when you can… and pray that it stays open a long time!

Major Challenge: Just as Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) is a two-way street, most definitely, so is RQ. Thus; you can do what you believe is “everything right”, but if your RQ is objectively too low; or, if you actually did “everything almost right”, but the other person’s RQ is objectively too low, then the relationship will naturally find a way to end. The two keys are, 1) Hyper-Appreciation; and, 2) the Appreciation Accounting methods used in the professional or personal relationship (another blog topic).

In coaching clients on this topic, it takes much time, patience, failure and practice to elevate your RQ. The biggest hurdle for most people in developing their RQ… understanding that it’s about others… not you! Yes… it’s about that rare, elusive thing… unconditional love. If they don’t make you a priority; then, they don’t understand nor appreciate you. Key: objectively developing both of your RQ’s… because both of you… believe it’s worth it.

So… why do some relationships excel while others sputter, before eventually ending? More importantly, how do you determine if you are the one with the lower RQ in the relationship… which leads to the eventual demise of the relationship? (Reminder: Holistic-DMQ, first and foremost is used to determine if you should be in or should stay in a professional or personal relationship.)

Here’s a non-exhaustive list, of challenges that naturally provide opportunities for people to elevate their RQ. The more you have, coupled with the more (objectively) successful you’ve been with each, the more likely your RQ is higher.

Demanding, But Respectful and Encouraging Parents: They’re tough to get along with, but getting along with difficult people is a competency that’s needed your entire adult life.
Challenging Teachers and Professors: You’ll learn the most from the tougher ones, who can be unreasonable at times. They inadvertently or intentionally, teach you how to cope with failure, surviving while being professionally bullied and so many other things.
Roommates Early in Life: Many are PIA’s; thus, a wonderful training environment for developing your RQ.
Military Experience: Does this even need to be explained on why it helps develop one’s RQ?

Demanding, But Professional Manager(s): Is there one or two that were exceptional in helping you develop your RQ? My first boss / mentor out of college, surprisingly loved me, but you wouldn’t know it from our “professionally heated discussions”. The #1 question I received from everyone, “how do you work with him”? We had a similar relationship to that of Tom Brady and Julian Edelman of the Patriots … “he (Tom Brady) yelled at me because he loved me!”, Julian Edelman. I never had a more comprehensively talented leader, the rest of my career.
Children: The depth of understanding about unconditional love for another human being, as learned from raising children, can not be communicated in words. This unconditional love can be seamlessly cascaded into personal relationships, but also into professional relationships.

Is it impossible to develop RQ in this area, without having children? Rarely, but yes. If you’ve ever been in a personal relationship, with someone who’s never had children, take a very close look at the depth and breadth of their unconditional love, resiliency in the relationship and ability to genuinely work through difficult situations. Not having children, doesn’t by any means, make them a bad person. However, don’t be surprised, when you hit even the tiniest bit of rough waters, the boat / relationship capsizes. Again, everyone’s different. Personally, I’ve observed 3 levels of RQ development in this area; the ones with children, the ones without children but want children and the ones without children and never wanted children.

Marriage (even if you were divorced): The list is long, deep and wide on how marriage either helps to develop your RQ, or lack of it, helps separate you in 7 years or less. Personally, my marriage lasted 20 years (and we had 3 children), was mostly great and RQ was a critically important competency that my Ex was remarkably talented.
Various Relationships: Typically one of two things happens. One (the rarest of the two); the two of you will develop your RQ’s together and both of you have materially-the-same RQ (currently) as well as similar RQ-Potential (ceilings). The second thing and what is more likely to happen, you’ll pursue relationships in which you find affirmation aligned with your RQ’s. Thus; you’ll get along well because you have similar RQ levels, regardless of how High or Low, your RQ levels (e.g. “Average” and “Average”), as long as they are materially-equal.
Coaching: This is not a cure-all. Coaching can only help you close the gap between your current RQ and your RQ-Potential (ceiling). However; moving from a 7.0 to an 8.5, for example, is a major step forward, that will provide bountiful benefits to you in your career and more importantly, in life!

So… what is your current RQ?

And… what is your RQ-Potential?

Is it worth the effort… for you to get better?

Are you a High-RQ Leader… looking to make a Significant Social Impact in other people’s lives?

Would you like to create $1+ Million for each of Your Favorite Non-Profits… in less than 20 hours per year?

DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).

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