“The ones who love you will never leave you.
Even if there are hundred reasons to give up,
they will find one reason to hold on.” ~ Anonymous
Do you believe this is a reliably accurate quote?
Many of the most uttered phrases in life, include the word, “love”!
To those who’ve lost their jobs, how many times did people at work say they, “love your work / love working with you”? Did they really?
To those who’ve been divorced, how many times did your Ex say he or she, “loved you”?
Anyone who follows my writing, knows I’m a “Holistic Writer” that loves (there’s that word again!) to blur the professional and personal lines… because, we are just one, holistic-person! Holistic is not simple; but… neither are our lives!
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As such; this particular blog will lean more toward the personal side while incorporating the professional side.
First; I can still count, on just one hand, the women during my lifetime (going all the way back to High School) whom I’ve uttered those magical, “I love you” words. So, this may be a good time for you to stop reading, since you may very well conclude, I may not be knowledgeable in this area!
Let’s organize Love into 3 macro categories.
- Unconditional Love – The rarest and most sacred of all Loves.
- Quid-Pro-Quo Love – Love shared when the tradeoffs are conveniently about the same for all parties.
- What Have You Done For Me Lately Love (WHYDFMLL) – Love shared, if the beneficiary has received what they wanted lately.
What Have You Done For Me Lately Love – This is the most common type of Love. The beautiful part about this type of Love, the one providing the Contingent Love, will argue vehemently… they don’t fit into this category. Why? If we peel the onion back on the core-competencies of this type of person, we’ll find most of their competencies are aligned with self-centeredness. Thus; all relationships must be continuously beneficial to them, while providing limited downside risks, in order for them to be willing to share some amount of Contingent Love.
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Have empathy and be slow to judge. This type of Love isn’t necessarily a bad thing; as we’re all different and for some, this is the best they’re capable of providing. Accept and understand (if you don’t, this is where the problems come in) what It is.
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This type of Love is also commonly practiced professionally by employers, partners and in vendor-customer relationships.
Quid-Pro-Quo Love – This is also a very common type of Love, but with a slight variance from WHYDFMLL Love. Instead of just maintaining the what have you done for me lately “score”, they consider what you’ve done for them recently. This could be, for example, aligned with what have you done for them the last 3 or 4 experiences. Thus; it provides a little more “runway” in the relationship, but it’s important to maintain a positive recent balance or the relationship will end.
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Again, self-centered DMQ (Decision Making Quality) is foundational to them. Have empathy, appreciate that your DMQ isn’t similar and understand, this may be the best they’re capable of providing.
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This is also commonly practiced professionally by employers, partners and in vendor-customer relationships.
Unconditional Love – This is something few will ever experience as an adult; yet is so Amazing, that words are insufficient to describe it!
Personally; there are Windows of Time in which many of us will temporarily experience it in our lifetime. A simple example is when we’re born and our parents take care of us until we’re capable of taking care of ourselves. As we grow older and enter into significant relationships, we begin to realize most relationships are aligned with a sophisticated bartering system vs. Unconditional Love. Again, Non-Unconditional Love may be the best someone is capable of providing; so, be empathetic while objectively understanding what type of limiting Love they are sharing.
If you find genuine, Unconditional Love, without strings attached… be appreciative for your Rainbow of Amazing while it lasts!
Given the capitalistic nature of the professional world, Unconditional Love is 99% nonexistent.
So, who really Loves you and who do you really Love?
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Our Intelligent Social Impact model blurs some of these lines of Love. Why? We see our role as being the voice for those without a voice… without food… without drinkable water… without ________!
Thus; we are indirectly extending Unconditional Love to those in need whom we’ve never met, while taking all the business risks to raise $ Millions for them! Our team creates $ Millions for the Companies we collaborate with first, so they can share a percentage of this financial success our teams created, with our teams and Non-Profits, at no net cost to the companies. So professionally, we have a Quid-Pro-Quo relationship with the companies.
What would your Non-Profit do with an extra $1+ Million?
Here are a few of the benefits our Intelligent Social Impact model provides.
- Fundraising for Non-Profits needing to raise $1.2+ Million, at no cost to your Non-Profit.
- Net Income for Companies needing to add $9.7+ Million to their bottom-lines, at no net cost to your company (Intelligent!).
- Holistic coaching centered on professional performance while incorporating whole-life improvement.
Watch the 5-Minute Highlight Video of Your Life while you’re making Jugular Decisions, to seize and hyper-appreciate your Windows of Amazing!
If this content resonates with you; and, you would actually appreciate help, seizing your Windows of Amazing…
DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).
Who changes the world? I believe it’s almost exclusively the Top-7%. They are the only ones with the Talent Portfolios and social consciences needed to actually implement significant positive social impact.
If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.
Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR
