“But out of all secrets of the river, he today only saw one, this one touched his soul.
He saw: this water ran and ran, incessantly it ran, and was nevertheless always there,
was always at all times the same and yet new in every moment!
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Great, be he who would grasp this, understand this!
He understood and grasped it not, only felt some idea of it stirring, a distant memory, divine voices.”
― Hermann Hesse, Siddharta
On jugular issues, how do you decide whether to dodge bullets or change ?
Life brings many challenges, professionally and personally.
How many times have you seen, what you thought were bullets (bad things that could happen in your life) and you dodged them?
How many times have seen, what you thought were bullets, but once you changed, you realized, they weren’t bullets at all, just a helping hand disguised in “it’s worthwhile to get better” clothes?
The answer to the question, “should you dodge bullets or change”
is paradoxically, identically the same… “just be you”!
Why is, “just be you” the same answer for both, apparently polar-opposite, options?
Quite simply, each person relies on their Holistic-DMQ to determine if it’s a bullet or a helping hand.
Thus; “just being you” taps into your Holistic-DMQ, Vision of Future Self,
5-Minute Highlight Video of your life, etc., and will be used to determine
whether you should dodge the bullets or change.
The higher your competencies, particularly your competencies while under stress,
the higher your probability for actually
and effectively deciding to dodge the bullets or change.
Important: The DMQ-Circular-Loop Syndrome will be hard at work, particular on jugular issues. Example: If you believe you’re making a high-quality 9.0 decision (subjective), but objectively, it’s a 6.5 decision; you’ll produce 6.5 outcomes, not 9.0 outcomes, while being oblivious to the objective reality, it’s a 6.5 outcome. Thus; the circular loop continues.
To further complicate the DMQ-Circular-Loop Syndrome, people tend to seek feedback from their Inner-Circle-DMQ. However, if you have a 7.0 Inner-Circle-DMQ and you’ve made a 6.5 (objective) decision, your Inner-Circle is likely to affirm (vs. inform you about) your decision being a 9.0 (subjective). Thus; everybody agrees and feels good; but, it’s still a 6.5 (objective) decision.
Choosing to Change – Let’s tackle the toughest of these two choices first. Once you get good at making this choice; you’ll realize how much you’ve forfeited by trying to dodge bullets, and only dodge bullets when interacting with consistently unreasonable, difficult, etc., people.
Here are a few ways to change in pursuit of your quest for Windows of Amazing vs. dodging bullets (and forfeiting those rare, Amazing professional and / or personal opportunities).
1 – Intelligently prepare to fail while trying to grow. When we venture into uncomfortable situations in an intelligent way, we know we may succeed or fail. Regardless, we’re committed to growing in the process. The key driver is our Vision for Possibility. When we see that which could be, coupled with our willingness to “die on our sword” to make that future happen, our Vision for Possibility keeps us moving when challenges block our view.
2 – Truly understand that you can’t get where you want to go, unless you venture into the unknown; and, you might just find it, but not recognize it. The key isn’t knowing exactly where you want to go, but knowing the direction you want to go. The greater the possibility for a “Window of Amazing”, the more unorthodox the process, outcome, etc.
3 – Intelligently engage your Inner-Circle, in particular, the one or two people closest to you that have as high or higher Holistic-DMQ than you. If you have a Holistic-Relationship with your significant other, this is the perfect person to travel this unknown journey. Both of you should be prepared to provide a “firefighter’s carry” to safety, if either of you need help. This could be in the form of financially carrying the load while starting a business, providing emotional support when one of you is exhausted, working disproportionately more hours if the other is unable, etc.
Dodging Bullets – This second choice is where many people live their lives articulating this skill. Yes, I learned to articulate it in my 20’s and 30’s. But; when I realized, just maybe, I needed and wanted to change, my skills in this area began diminishing.
The key competency to develop is your “Conflict Resilience”.
Amazing thrives in the midst of conflicts, unknowns, unorthodoxies, etc.
This is why so few experience Amazing.
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It is simply too much work, too much chaos, etc., for most people to handle effectively.
The beautiful part about thriving in this competency, the world, professionally and personally begins to “slow down” and what was once chaos
becomes calm, while the most important things in life shine with clarity, purpose, etc.
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Thus; genuine life prioritization takes precedence and Amazing blesses your life!
Here are a few effective ways to dodge bullets (if you aren’t capable, don’t realize you aren’t currently capable or aren’t committed to changing).
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1 – When making decisions, particularly jugular ones, focus on “I” not “we”, to make sure you take care of yourself first. If the other person / people adapt, great! If they do or don’t adapt, either way, you’ve dodged the bullet!
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2 – While making decisions, utilize your Self-Sabotage-DMQ to intelligently sabotage ideas, initiatives, etc. By intelligently sabotaging the potential change, you don’t have to worry about changing. Thus; you’ve again, dodged the bullet!
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3 – When decisions need to be made, take the reverse of focusing on “I”; while simultaneously focusing on “I”, by staying silent. Thus; if the change might negatively impact you, by staying silent, you’re reinforcing the status quo, not the change. Again, dodging the bullet!
It’s my genuine observation; very few ever find just 3 or more years of Windows of Amazing in their entire life.
Most will find a few or many “good” or “very good” years.
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Amazing is nearly impossible to find and requires significant change to hold onto it;
however, once found and comprehensively appreciated… it changes literally everything in your life!
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If this content resonates with you and you would appreciate help finding your Windows of Amazing…
DM me on LinkedIn or directly (jim.roncevich@ipgsocialimpact.com).
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