“She wore her scars as her best attire.
A stunning dress made of hellfire.”
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~ Louis D’Alto
What is your preference… loved and lost or to never have loved at all?
We have many loves in life… that special person, careers, hobbies, etc.
However, the pain of losing someone or something can be so great, after it ends, many say they wished they had never started.
How do you feel? Do you have a special –gauge– you use to measure, “is it worth it?”… such as, a gauge forecasting “how long you believe it will last”, to determine if you should even take the risk and get started?
Lady Vulnerability is always present, just daring you to be growingly raw… every step of the way!
The most fascinating thing about deciding if it’s better to have loved and lost, or to never have loved at all… it must be answered at the –-beginning– when we decide to start or not start something… a relationship, a new career, move to a new location, etc., without any assurance that it’ll all work out well.
The only assurance…
the odds are increasingly against you, the more Unorthodoxly Amazing you pursue!
Here are some things to consider when making these gut-wrenching decisions.
- If it worked out Amazingly, but ultimately ended within X months, downright awfully… would you still have done it again?
- Is there a high-enough probability, it could be Kick-Ass Amazing? Hint: check with your heart and soul… not your mind (which often tricks us into fleeing when we should stay and staying when we should flee).
- Does it have the possibility to positively change the lives of others… thus; you’re not merely making a self-centered decision?
- Is there a likelihood it’ll become part of Thee 5-Minute Highlight Video of Your Life?
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Don’t confuse this blog’s question with the similar question, “Is it better to – think —
you loved…”, but you really didn’t love. We all know how that story ends.
The litmus test for me, resides in the question…
is there a high enough probability (which sometimes is less than 1%)
that it would be Unorthodoxly Amazing?
If yes; I’m all in! Nonetheless, often… life happens and it ends less-than-stellar… sigh!
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But, for those rare diamonds who make life Unorthodoxly Amazing… and you mustered up the courage to not forfeit a potential, Unorthodoxly Amazing privilege (a more appreciated opportunity), just because it might not work…welcome the privilege to have lost!
How about you…
Is it better to have loved and lost… or to have never loved at all?
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