“Lifestyle Packages… For most… objectively…
when everything is completely unmasked
and all types of false justifications are cleansed away…
Lifestyle Packages are… most people’s ultimate decision driver.”
Yet… You can elevate to be that rare, Unorthodoxly-Amazing One!” ~ JR
Objectively, how have you made decisions to
create your optimal opportunities in life?
The simple, truly objective answer for most people, typically starts with going back to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs; 1) physiological, 2) safety, 3) love, 4) esteem, and 5) self-actualization. If one doesn’t have food, a roof, etc., why focus on the other needs? Pretty basic.
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Thus; for most, our DMQ (Decision Making Quality) is naturally geared to focus on our immediate hierarchal needs and the needs of our loved ones. Again, pretty basic.
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So; how does this actually play out in our chaotic world these days?
Look around… it’s actually abundantly simple to observe. Most people make decisions that optimize their current Lifestyle Packages.
Given the upheaval created by the pandemic, personal catastrophes people uniquely experience, etc., most people are searching for the first two or three levels of Maslow’s Hierarchy, which makes sense! The last 2 or 3 levels, for most, just need to be Good Enough; and when they’re combined with the first 2 or 3 being comfortably attained, this makes overall life appear to be quite fantastic.
Pause… what if you were to commit, to living a life of self-actualization and you adjusted
all your decisions to support that Purpose-Driven life? What would that look like?
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How much courage does it take to choose Purpose over Lifestyle?
In travelling an unusual journey in life personally; I’ve discovered how to accept a minimum threshold on the first two Hierarchy Needs, which has enabled me to focus on the last three, which are inseparably connected; love, esteem and self-actualization.
The succinct summary… this unorthodox approach is extremely difficult to actually
implement and live. Nonetheless; this unorthodox decision-making process has
completely changed my life in ways never imagined.
Interestingly; every time I’ve focused on the first two Hierarchal Needs, life’s been really, really good at first… but not Unorthodoxly-Amazing. I’d try to convince myself it was better than really, really good. But, longer term, without the Gift of Oblivion… my heart and soul would eventually overtake my mind’s deceptive justifications. Seems for those few, without the Gift of Oblivion, one’s soul can never quite be at rest.
There are many lessons learned on this journey; and here are a few.
+ It’s quite lonely and lacks many basic material securities. Most won’t understand you or your decisions and will not travel the journey with you. Who could blame them? Further, when we bypass an experience, we don’t really miss it, since it didn’t actually happen. Blessed are the lucky many, who have received the Gift of Oblivion!
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+ Significant Lifestyle decisions are jugular forks, that tell you everything about someone at their deepest levels. Listen. Respect. Pray. Wish them the best.
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+ The ability or inability, to make “We-Oriented Decisions” on jugular issues (that could affect one of both of you in very negative ways) demonstrates one’s capacity for conditional vs. unconditional love. Most can make “We Decisions” on superficial issues, or when Lifestyle Packages are too attractive to risk losing, but will revert back to “I Decision Making”, when the decisions are too critical to listen and engage with others.
+ Self-Actualization at the 9.x level is where Unorthodoxly Amazing begins and weaves its abundant beauty, that is so indescribable. Beware: The DMQ-Circular-Loop Syndrome will be hard at work, attempting to support your decisions and convince you that it’s Unorthodoxly Amazing. For sub-9.0’s, since they’ll convince themselves it’s Unorthodoxly Amazing, this will paradoxically turn out beautifully for them.
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So how do Lifestyle Packages play out in the real world?
Professionally: How many times have you been “left behind” when a deal fell apart, a recession hit or funding was running low? Great leaders always help their teams escape danger first, to the detriment of their own Lifestyle Packages. Poor leaders maintain their Lifestyle Packages sufficiently while sharing a portion of their excesses in a veiled attempt to make it appear, they are sacrificing too.
Personally: There are numerous examples we’ve all witnessed where people are focused on securing material comforts first; as long as the rest is Good Enough. What’s not to like… this approach makes life a lot, lot easier! For me, I’m a little odd, albeit a lonely road, I prefer the scarred, poor; yet beautifully-appreciative souls who create tears in my heart and soul and will let the rest fall into place.
Life’s short, respect everyone’s choices and unconditionally love those who’ve shared parts of their heart and soul with you!
In leading a Purpose-Driven Life; we’ve created a Social Impact model, designed for Top Universities committed to living DEI.
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The coolest part…Intelligent…
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Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR
