“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more.
It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.
It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” – Melody Beattie
Objectively; how do you assess your holistic ability to appreciate?
Hint… the answer is not dichotomous, such as, “Yes I am” or “No I’m not” appreciative.
It’s important to use a spectrum to gauge one’s level of appreciation, such as a scale from -10.0 to +10.0, with -5.0 to +5.0 being “Average”. Further; we don’t have just one Appreciation Spectrum, we have at least three.
- Routine, Non-Critical Appreciation
- Quid-Pro-Quo Appreciation
- Jugular, Unconditional Appreciation
Let’s explore each of these three spectrums.
Routine, Non-Critical Appreciation – These are common acts of help we provide, or others provide to us, that require very little effort and have minimal positive or negative consequences.
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A simple example, yesterday I went to Whole Foods where a couple had a flat tire that needed changed. Instead of just walking by them, I offered to help. They said, “Thank you, but we’re good… just a little old to be doing this”. There wasn’t a big upside, risk, etc., for either of us.
Quid-Pro-Quo Appreciation – These are Transactional Appreciation Tokens exchanged between people, often disguised as another type of appreciation. Are they bad; no. It’s just important to recognize them for what they are and what they are not.
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They are commonly observed in business environments where two or more parties help each other and appreciate each other’s contributions. The glue that holds these relationships together, is each party following the unwritten rule to match each other’s Appreciation Contributions. When these aren’t materially equal, the relationships seldom survive.
Jugular, Unconditional Appreciation – This appreciation centers squarely on the most important things that happen in your life or someone else’s life, and you help or they help you, with no expectation for reciprocation.
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Thus, the relationship remains fully intact regardless of which party needs help and a Scorecard is not maintained formally or informally. The appreciative actions are first determined by both parties, based on their joint interpretation of the need, and then individually by the giver and the receiver.
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Professional Example: One friend wants to start a business and asks a close friend for help. Together they determine what help “looks like”, the giver determines what help to provide and the receiver determines how to accept the help. This could be providing referrals, pro-bono services, etc.
It’s important to recognize, appreciation can come in any combination of these three basic types. The most important aspect, is to understand; what type of appreciation is being provided.
The key to finding the beautiful confluence of appreciative relationships is Holistic-DMQ. Intertwined and inseparable are all aspects of your professional, personal and community life. When your Holistic-DMQ is in sync with those in your Inner-Circle, Jugular, Unconditional Appreciation naturally takes place.
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