“Nothing in this world can torment you as much as your own thoughts.” – healthyplace.com
Stress… Depression… Anxiety… Regret… Happiness…
A key, common thread to all of these attributes …
Decision Making Quality (DMQ)
Are these attributes, regardless if they are controllable or not… regardless if they are intentional or not… to a certain degree… self-inflicted?
I’ve been accused by many, as being one of the most creative people they’ve met. To that end; just as the Laws of Attraction play out for you, they also play out for me, both professionally and personally.
Professionally, being able to walk into F500’s and find $10’s of millions of dollars in savings in a matter of hours, that 1,000’s of intelligent employees and executives aren’t able to find, is just an unusual, almost autistic gift, that comes relatively easy for me; yet, still surprises executives earning 7-figure incomes.
Personally, attracting people that I refer to as “on the edge”, who are spectacular, amazing, etc., when they are mentally healthy, has been both fascinating and challenging at the same time.
If you’re like me, unfortunately; in these primarily wonderful and healthy relationships, others sometimes go off the rails as the cliché is referenced. I’m not a medical professional and there are many different medical reasons for why _______ behavior happens.
As a point of reference, I’ve known people extremely well, that have suffered from:
- Anxiety attacks where they’re completely overwhelmed by everything regardless of how little.
- Depression bouts where the communication door is closed with 6 locks on it.
- Anger issues where they’ve actually punched me repeatedly to the point where I’m black & blue for 2 weeks.
- Suicide – yes; where the mental illness was so bad, they actually took their own life.
When they were mentally healthy, all of them were unusually wonderful people, well-educated (several earned a Master’s Degree) and appeared to have a lot going for them, by social-norm standards. As a matter of fact, most people didn’t / or wouldn’t even know they had mental issues.
So; is there a common ingredient that possibly contributed to their, as well as many people’s, unhealthy behavior?
In trying to understand this, since these people were so close to me, I’ve reflected on my own failures, successes, regrets (just say “yes” when you’re asked to go for a walk along the Pacific), etc., and I believe DMQ is the most critical, foundational reason.
Why DMQ?
When people make the decisions to…
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+ Commit the sin of omission, by not sharing information pertinent to the relationship;
+ Follow acceptable social norms because they’re easier to deal with, but don’t work for the uniquely special you;
+ Inflict mental or physical pain upon others, even though the recipient isn’t truly deserving of it;
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… we add to the “pile of regrets burden” carried by our mind.
Our heart and soul know we haven’t been true to ourselves or we’ve done others wrong, while our mind repeatedly attempts to convince our self-esteem, sometimes for a lifetime, that “it was the right thing to do at the moment”!
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But in our heart and soul, we know it really wasn’t!
This is similar to the relentlessly beating heart that drove the person insane in Edgar Allan Poe’s classic, “The Tell-Tale Heart”.
When you transition away from Social Norms to Uniquely-Special-You scripts… life changes!
When we are healthy in our failures, acknowledge our regrets and become genuinely ourselves, without any make-up, we develop a healthier mental attitude while making decisions consistent with who we really are; not who we want others to see.
Rather than having “regrets” pile up in our minds, which we then need to mentally carry with us throughout our lives, we can be unchained from the old regrets, stop adding new regrets and begin anew, to live an Amazing, Purpose-Driven and Healthy life that’s uniquely special!
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