“Never be bullied into silence.
Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.” – Harvey Fierstein
Think about all the bad stuff that’s happened in your life.
How did you respond to those setbacks?
“Life isn’t fair… get used to it!” – Bill Gates
The phrase, “I used to be a people-pleaser and others took advantage of me”, was uttered by a celebrity on TV the other day. I found this to be an interesting choice of words by this multi-millionaire. So, you think you’re the victim?. When good things happen to you, as a result of you being a people-pleaser, do you still call yourself a victim… or… a hard worker?
Just maybe, this person was a people-pleaser because they thought this approach would help their career. Just maybe, some of those people they had hoped would help them, didn’t help them or took advantage of them.
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Thus; what they were really looking for, was a quid-pro-quo relationship. This is fine, if that’s your style, but just admit it and don’t use the Victim-Card.
I understand there are times in which people are legitimately the victim, in the traditional meaning of the word, and have much empathy for them.
Succinctly; we make decisions about people, companies, etc., with whom we choose to interact. We’re not the victim if it goes poorly and we’re not the hero if it goes well. We’re just that unique person that looks back at us from the mirror while using our Holistic-DMQ to make the best decisions we can.
In case you’re wondering, I’m not immune from bad stuff happening. In one business relationship in which our team brought in multiple, huge clients over an 18 month period, that were worth more net income to us than most people will ever make in a lifetime, our collaborating partner decided to sell his proprietary software to a Fortune 100 company while signing a non-compete. Goose eggs for us! Life goes on… I’m not the victim. Bad things can happen to good people.
What if every time you felt like a victim, you genuinely:
- Owned your decision completely?
- Chose to not be the victim?
- Became the catalyst that created positive changes for others, from this learning experience?
Become that powerful, selfless leader who creates and nurtures positive environments for others to thrive!
Q: What is the key to comprehending this blog’s content fully, and implementing it, especially on jugular issues?
A: Holistic-DMQ joined by Appreciation Muscle development and Ex-Ex (Execution-Excellence) of your decisions!
The majority of the victims in the world, just maybe, are those people who weren’t availed the fundamental opportunities, through no fault of their own, that you and I were gifted!
Think about it deeply!
Be a catalyst for positive change every time you think you’re a victim. Sure; you took the hit and it hurts. But, be the change for others if you’ve:
- Struggled to afford school… now create a scholarship for others
- Been homeless… now help others on the verge of being homeless
- Been abused… now create supports for those being abused
- Been <fill in the blank>… now create and implement an intelligent solution
Be a Holistic, Collaborative & Appreciative Leader that the best leaders in the world, will admire!
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