“I’m not saying that love always takes you to heaven.
Your life can become a nightmare.
But that said, it is worth taking the risk.”
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~ Paulo Coelho
If you have ever truly loved someone… will you always love them?
There are many opinions about the complexly-elegant concept called, “love”. Are there any right or wrong answers to the question, “do you still love them”?
Relationship related services is a multi-billion-dollar industry. Does it really have to be so difficult; or, do we need to reframe (or get help reframing) our prospective on the concept of love and surround ourselves with others who’ve reframed this topic in healthy ways?
Is every person who’s ever loved you… still a part of you… if so…
did they help shape you into who you are now?
Thus; if they are part of you… and you love you… then do you love them?
Given the complexity of this topic, this blog is designed to be more of a thought-provoker than providing simple, yet insufficient answers to the numerous unique circumstance applicable to you and your relationships.
What happens when people, whom you’ve loved, hurt you… intentionally or unintentionally? Do you still love them afterwards? Again, there are many opinions, with no right or wrong answers.
Divorce… often, is an ugly dance that looks more like a cat fight… by two people who… theoretically loved each other at one time. Do you still love your Ex… after a cat-fight divorce?
Not that my opinion on this topic is accurate, for me, once loved, always loved is my belief. Thus; I’ve shared with anyone whom I’ve ever loved, they can reach out to me anytime and I’ll take their call. Why not… unless they consistently weaponize this openness? Plus, two-way communication mitigates miscommunication, especially in strained relationships.
Key: If you’ve made good relationship decisions in the past, are making good relationship decisions currently, then everyone can experience a healthy environment. If you haven’t made good relationship decisions… the strain can create enormous new relationship challenges. Thus; fully understand (two-way communication) and support the other person’s decisions… whether you agree or disagree with them.
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Warning: This approach requires healthy amounts of self-security, not only from yourself, but from anyone whom you could now be in love. When there is untrustworthiness, insecurities, etc., on your current partner’s behalf (which may or may not be well-founded), how do you handle the situation?
The above “Key” speaks to your and your partner’s Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality), and as always, Holistic-DMQ is the key driver for healthy current and past relationships.
Professionally… have you ever loved working at a company or with certain people? If so, do you still love them after you leave or end the relationship? Why not… even if it ended badly? If you don’t love them afterwards… then just maybe, you never really loved them… and it was more of a transactional exchange… financial compensation in exchange for your talent.
What if you lead or want to lead a Purpose-Driven Life and intelligently surround yourself with people, organizations, etc., who love you and you love them… especially the one who chooses to lay their head upon the pillow next to you a night… which is the most important person in your professional and personal life?
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