“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
I compare the Laws of Attraction to gravity; they are both undeniable and are constantly active. Why do so many leaders attempt to fight these natural laws when they’re building their inner circles of influence?
An interesting question was asked to me this week in regard to people wearing or not wearing makeup. In thinking about the question, since makeup changes our appearance (in multiple ways) to others, it can lead to temporarily attracting the wrong people into our professional or personal lives. However, long term, the Laws of Attraction always prevail and the wonderful people you ultimately attract, are simply amazing!
What does makeup look like in the business world? It can take the form of job titles, degrees, professional attire, etc. Our challenge is to see through the makeup to accurately observe the Talent Portfolios of professionals we’re hiring or people with whom we’re investing our time. I’ve met and hired talent that didn’t have degrees, that ran circles around many who had degrees. However, most of my top performers did have multiple degrees.
If you recall the non-exciting field of Statistics, correlation is a key variable. We use certain attributes that have strong historical correlation to future success in deciding with whom to surround ourselves. However, correlation does not equal guarantees. Similarly, the diamonds in the rough, who don’t have “traditional” backgrounds can be erroneously passed over, to your detriment.
I believe, it is only during the difficult times in business and life that you’ll be able to see others, professionally and personally, without their makeup. These “valleys” in life, are absolutely wonderful for solidifying, positively or negatively, the Laws of Attraction.
Time is another great predictor of Laws of Attraction. Professionals and people whom you haven’t talked with for more than a year, if the Laws of Attraction are strong enough, will immediately pick up right where you left off. The trust, integrity and attraction only strengthen over time, with or without interaction. This is where being a great person your entire life reveals itself.
Here’s the harsh side of the Laws of Attraction; if you don’t like who you’re attracting, change you. Don’t blame them for any shortcomings in the relationship. Professionally and respectfully jettison them. Keep getting better as a leader and you’ll attract even better professionals and personal relationships into your life.
If you’re a purpose-driven leader, you’ll attract (although not always) purpose-driven people into your life.
If you want to lead an amazing life, although it will be lonely at times because you’re in the small percentage of people who get the “game of life”, use my two basic rules for relationships.
- Rule #1: You’re my #1 priority and I’m #2.
- Rule #2: I’m you’re #1 priority and you’re #2.
Thus; we’re both working our tails off to make sure the other is successful in everything they are pursuing, professionally, personally or both.
Who changes the world? I believe it’s almost exclusively the Top-7%. They are the only ones with the Talent Portfolios and social consciences needed to actually implement significant positive social impact. If you believe you’re one of these executives, we’d love to explore possible opportunities.
Get Making A Difference! ~ JR
