“Passion is one great force that unleashes creativity, because if you’re passionate about something,
then you’re more willing to take risks.”
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~ Yo-Yo Ma
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“Intelligent risk taking… the only places where Holistic, Unorthodoxly-Amazing hides!”
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~ James Roncevich
How important is emotional intelligence in your professional and personal relationship development choices?
What experiences have you had that were awesome, to terrible?
There is a seldom utilized secret that only those with the highest emotional intelligence implement when things don’t appear to go well.
Preserving other people’s self-esteem isn’t always easy… or is it?
What if you could help people who aren’t selected, feel good about not being selected?
This is yet another fascinatingly complex topic to discuss!
Chemistry: We’re going to combine people’s DMQ-Inner-Circle (DMQ=Decision Making Quality) with a paradoxical approach to creating the best outcomes for all parties.
Basics: We know people obviously use their DMQ, to select, who is in their Inner-Circle. Thus; people merely reflect the views of their Inner-Circle. If an individual’s Holistic-DMQ is less than 8.5 (scale = 0.0 to 10.0), they’ll select people for their Inner-Circle who primarily “affirm” their decisions; not “inform” them of the strengths and flaws in their decision-making process.
The Secret: People with extremely high Holistic-DMQ and Emotional Intelligence… will read the DMQ of not just the individual, but also the individual’s Inner-Circle… via the individual… and then respond in the way the individual and their Inner-Circle… thought they would, if they’re a sub-8.5.
Voila! Helping the individual and their Inner-Circle feel they made the right decision, by
responding the way they thought you would, reinforces the individual’s and Inner-Circle’s self-esteem!
Summary of the Process: Unfortunately, the process is quite complex, and this blog is an insufficient space to describe it in detail. Thus; I’ll merely summarize the process.
In the Relationship Building process, the use of aggressive (vs. safe) opportunities, language and requests are key to understanding whether the relationship fit is going to be amazing, good-enough or not-so-good.
Providing people significant opportunities quickly in the relationship, to demonstrate their talents and commitment levels, will tell you a lot about them and their Inner-Circle. For example, providing unproven people with the opportunity to work with your largest opportunities, earn a 7-figure income, etc., doesn’t seem to make sense. Paradoxically, it is a brilliant way to understand them quickly. Gold Medalists thrive on these types of opportunities while Wanna-Be-Medalists shrink!
People with the rare combination of high Intellectual-Horsepower, DMQ and Ex-Ex (Execution-Excellence), will ask powerful questions
and seize the biggest opportunities. Most people won’t have this combination and will self-cleanse out of opportunities / your life.
Thus; when most people self-cleanse out of the opportunity or your life… simply respond using high Emotional Intelligence, in the same way you believe the individual’s Inner-Circle expects you to respond, so they feel they were “right”.
For those rare people who seize the opportunities and do the work to pursue an Unorthodoxly-Amazing Journey with you…
they will make your journey indescribably beautiful… year-after-year!
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Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR
