“The paradox is that hedonism, the pursuit of pleasure for it’s own sake, leads to anhedonia.
Which is the inability to enjoy pleasure of any kind.”
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~ Anna Lembke
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“Paradoxically… intelligently giving of yourself is the most self-centered thing you can do!
Why?
Because it gives you the privilege to lead a Purpose-Driven, Unorthodoxly-Amazing Life!
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~ James Roncevich
Research has proven numerous times, expressing gratitude improves our own well-being.
Do you find this to be true for yourself?
Paradoxically, we are often reluctant to give or ask for help; yet we know it would be mentally healthy for both the giver and receiver.
At the opposite end of the spectrum, what happens when you make decisions that are the opposite of kind, are misleading or when you commit the sin of omission… all while using self-justifying internal talk to make yourself feel good?
How often do you ante up the courage to unconditionally help others, especially total strangers or those who’ve gone out of their way to throw rocks at you (which is arguably the most rewarding prosociality acts you can bless yourself with)? Personally; I’ve learned how to give help anonymously, unless someone insists on knowing who I am… and each, big or small, is such a beautiful experience!
Privilege… this is a topic I’ve shared with my children, about themselves, myself and their mother… we, through sheer dumb luck, have been blessed with the opportunity to learn, work, etc., in nearly any capacity we’ve wanted. Most people in the world do not enjoy this privilege.
The more you recognize how privileged you are… the more you want to give back, the less self-centered and self-justifying are your decisions… which in-turn… improves your well-being in an Unorthodoxly-Amazing spiral upward!
On the contrary, many parents who lack sufficient gratitude associated with privileges, often coddle their children under the auspicious of “love”. Many of these children grow up to expect the rest of the world to coddle them. Unfortunately, this can manifest itself in a downward spiral of less-than-stellar decision making focused on self-centeredness and good-enough comfort.
So what could be one key antidote for helping yourself, your children,
your family, your co-workers, etc.?
How about a healthy dose of Appreciation Muscle Development,
since gratitude improves your own well-being!
Karma has been overflowing my cup and the more it overflows, the more I’ve given of my time, resources and kindness.
Beware, as Karma can have a tricky timing schedule in which both Good and Bad Karma often manifests itself in windows of time not directly associated with your good or bad deeds.
Further; Bad Karma is a Master of Deception. It can lull you into believing your current opportunities are wonderful; only to set you up for long-term misery. Thus; to be safer, consistently and actively show kindness to all those with whom you interact… courageously practice prosociality!
What are you doing to be proactively kind to others and enjoy the priceless value of the Prosociality Paradox?
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Get MAD! Get Making A Difference! ~ JR
