“Every battle is won before it is ever fought.” ~ Sun Tzu
Jugular Life Forks…
those treacherous decision points that permanently change our lives forever!
Jugular Life Forks are:
1. Planted by us well before we arrive at them;
2. Nurtured unconsciously over time by us; and then,
3. Already harvested by us, before we ever reach them.
Our Holistic-DMQ (Decision Making Quality) is the planter, nurturer and harvester!
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There are two distinct approaches we can take, to these Jugular Life Forks… each path has its own unique and significantly different benefits and consequences.
Approach #1: I’m Here Now, Thinking – In this popularly observed approach, people take a step-by-step decision-making process using short-range decision making. This is wonderfully fluid and flexible while living on an almost day-by-day decision-making horizon.
Professionally for example, you decide whether to go to your job on a day-by-day basis… based on the current situation.
Personally for example, you decide whether to stay in a relationships on a day-by-day basis… based on your current situation.
Approach #2: Here’s Where I’m Going – In this rarely observed approach, people use outcome-based decision making. They only see the macro benchmarks that need to take place while filling in the details during the journey, that will deliver their desired outcomes and get them where they want to go.
Professionally for example, you decide each outcome you want to pursue and then use your year-by-year work ethic and decision making to enable a high probability (no guarantees!) for achieving your desired outcomes.
Personally for example, you determine what you want from a relationship by the end of it and then return back to present day, to make decisions, that enable the highest probability for achieving your desired outcomes.
Thus; with Here’s Where I’m Going, when you get to your actual, Jugular Life Forks… you’ve already enabled your desired options to be pursued. Consistent with Sun Tzu’s quote, the forks you prefer, have already been enabled.
If you’re a Here’s Where I’m Going decision maker, all the attractive options will be availed at your Jugular Forks. Whereas, if you’re a I’m Here’s Now, Thinker, your options at the Jugular forks will be limited, based on your lack of outcome-based enablement.
How do we handle the conflicts that naturally occur between which of the two paths to pursue; I’m Here Now, Thinking and Here’s Where I’m Going?
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The answer isn’t so simple. In general… most people don’t handle it well. Typically, one approach or the other consistently wins out, based on the level of one’s Holistic-DMQ.
Compromises made between these two approaches, most often leads to sub-optimized outcomes for all parties involved! The rare exception occurs when all parties have a Vision for Possibility (VfP) of what could be and they choose to make decision-adjustments that enable an elevated, mutually beneficial, We-Oriented outcome, to be created.
As you ponder the various Jugular Life Forks you’ve already passed and the ones you are now creating through your Holistic-DMQ, a key exercise to consider, is looking at the 5-Minute Highlight Video of Your Life (discussed in multiple other blogs).
What summary of your life… do you want to see?
Now… go out and create those beautiful possibilities so you’re ecstatic when you watch your 5-Minute Highlight Video!
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